Introvert probs

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by H20, Aug 8, 2018.

  1. H20

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    People do usually suggest on a way to avoid cycle of PMO from repeating is by do socialize, but for an introvert person we do share some common problems....

    I do found myself on how I usually watched porn as a reason to 'kill some times' and avoid boredom (and ofcoz it lead to M and O) rather than spending time with friends. it somehow became a habit for almost 10 years period. A real bad habit actually.

    If so, how do i kill introvert? and spend my time wisely...
     
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  2. Paper

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    You want to build big muscles- workout, you want to be the best artist-draw, if you want to become more social- go out and meet people. Everything comes with practice. I am also an introvert, but more like introvert-extrovert, usually I don't want to go to some events etc, but I just think to myself, life is too short to sit at home, I just go and I try to enjoy it, later I don't even regret it, I almost always meet some new people in the end. Practice mentality where you just do, not think and you will train your mind and body to be more social
     
  3. Truegamer007

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    Start small. Make it a point to get out of the house EVERY SINGLE DAY. Then once you're comfortable with that, take it up a notch, have at least one conversation with a stranger every day and so on. But that's later. First you must make it a habit to leave the house every day. Get to a point where it feels like your day isn't done if you haven't left the house at least once.
     
  4. ReadyToStop

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    Join a class. Pottery. Archery. Painting. Book club. Swing dance. Volunteer for a political campaign. Do set construction for a local theater group.

    These are great ways to find a context to meet new people and develop real relationships.
     
  5. Jess001

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    Being an introvert is not a character flaw, it is a personality trait. I suggest you learn about yourself and your own strengths and weakness and be comfortable and accept who you are. I used to think I was bad because I was introverted but I don't any more. I read a great book called "Quiet" by Susan Cain that I highly recommend.

    You matter! You are special! You are not alone!
     
  6. lackingabettername

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    Good book. Seconded.
     
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  7. ReadyToStop

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    Hi @H20 . I suggest you join a class. Pottery, dance, sports, drawing, book club, etc. These are all great ways to interact with people.
     
  8. SensualLettuce

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    Nothing wrong with being an introvert, and more often than not you lie somewhere on the spectrum that makes you slightly extroverted too. Simply said, just pick up healthy activities your interested in to recharge from solitude or from your environment . Things like going to a park, pub, learning a language/instrument, exercising are examples of things you can do. Maybe use the process of elimination to figure out what you want to do?
     
  9. QuittingForChrist

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    Getting involved in more activities is the first thing us introverts need to do. Also, if you're home alone and bored, go for a walk, a bike ride, or just go for a drive to downtown or something. Just being out of the house helps me.
     
  10. Harsh Kumar

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    I have a similar story my friend... For me, I become too much anxious of how to talk, what to talk... I rarely have anything to talk about... :|
     
  11. eduardkoopman

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    I totally agree with the above. To add;
    I heard that one being introverted; social situations will cost energy. Whereas being alone one will gain energy as an introvert. I think it's most wise to life in a way that gives you energy.
    It's also smart imo to actually spend some time practising the extrovert skills, so you behave extrovert-like to some extend of the situation makes it that it's best to behave oposite of with feels natural/common.
     
  12. Castielle

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    Completely agree! This is what I was going to say. Dont try to "kill" a part of you that makes you who you are. You just need to learn more about yourself and find a healthy balance. You dont need to socialize more if it's not something you enjoy and something that adds value to your life. Maybe you need some more hobbies or things you're interested in doing on your own. I love reading and writing and I make YouTube videos, and all of that takes up a lot of my time. I rarely go out and socialize, and I'm very happy with that. I am energized by being alone, at home. Every once in a while, I will go out and socialize, but then i need to come home and recharge. That's not something you should try to (or even can) "fix" about yourself. It probably wont work out. You can't force yourself to be an extrovert, or at least I would argue that most people can't force that. I would say it's better to embrace who you are and adapt, rather than trying to force yourself to fit a mold that you think is best when it doesnt mesh with who you are.
     
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  13. Jaykob

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    Hi here! I am new. Let's communicate
     
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  14. Future role model

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    Wrong forum section. Introduce yourself in the "New to NoFap" section, and if you're looking for somebody to talk to, you can always search for AP in AP section. Don't just go to random threat and say that you're new and you want to talk.
     
  15. Hitto

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    I have come to the conclusion I may be introverted too but I have social anxiety as well so I’m learning to accept it and working on it little by little I think my pmo addiction made me completely ignore my purpose but now. I’ve been away from pmo for more than a year I’m focusing on that I do still have anxiety about getting out of my comfort zone. HoweverI’m challenging those self limiting thoughts. I used use to compare myself to others but now I see that’s pointless and I’m more comfortable with my strengths and weaknesses.Ive always been better with communicating in small groups and been introduced to people through mutual friends. I’m realizing God made me this way for a reason and start using my gifts to find my purpose.Its hard but the more we stay away from pmo the more self-knowledge we gain and we start to stop sabotaging ourselves and more comfortable we become stay strong. Don’t wish you were somebody just be the best version of yourself you can be
     
  16. ReadyToStop

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    Hi @H20 we haven't heard from you in a while. How are you doing?
     

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