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Deleted Account · Nov 28, 2013

Hey there everyone!

I was checking out this site before I choose to join. Based on other threads I cannot consider myself a serious addict. I've last seen some serious stuff years ago, and for the past 2 years I've only watched things that would be marked as "female friendly" on 18/21+ sites. Also, I've never PMO-d 3-4 times a day, I cannot even imagine how can you do that!

My main reason to join was because I noticed that even if I watch just vanilla stuff, I still do that. I've already tried to quit multiple times (without knowing about nofap) but I've failed spectacularly, and even that I don't have serious symptoms (I'm more than interested in real women, I've never experienced ED and stuff) I'm still addicted. And an addiction is an addiction no matter how serious it is.

I plan to post regularly, and try to help others quit who still kept most of their senses, because this can be even more dangerous than PMO-ing like crazy all the time. Meanwhile, I'll get rid of this unnecessary addiction.

See y'all around!
EarthDragon

marcosharko · Nov 28, 2013

Hi EarthDragon,

I hear you when you say that your problem is not as serious as other peoples. I feel (or felt) the same way about my own addiction(s). For example, I never felt know that situation whereby I have hurt myself physically (raw skin on penis) from over-fapping.

Let me tell you my experience - I have overcome an alcohol experience. I did so purely by listening to other people that had had alcohol problems. That was enough to help me - the power of listening to other peoples stories. It was like a sort of magic - I didnt 'do' anything, I just listened. One thing I heard time and again was expereinced AA members telling me about 'not yets'. That we all have 'not yets' - as in the newbie would often listen to AA members talking about extreme examples of addiction (falling down drunk, waking up in the gutter, crashing their cars etc) and say to themselves "well, Its not so bad for me because I have never expereinced that, NOT YET, anyway."

If you find yourself listing out 'not yets' as a way to convince yourself that you have less of a problem than other people, ask yourself what are you doing? Are you trying to convince yourself that everything is ok?

I'm not accusing you of anything - please dont hate me. I too, have lots of 'not yets'.

The most helpful thing I have ever heard about addiction was this - and I forget who it was that said it. It was in the context of that age old debate..."can xyz really be an addiction? surely its not a medical condition blah blah blah". The answer is this;

An addiction is anything, any behaviour, that a person indulges in that he doesnt want to indulge it.

It doesnt have to be life threatening to be a problem. You dont need to be reduced to a gibering wreck or lose half your body weight before realising that change is needed. If you realise that you are doing something (drinking / PMO / anything) more than you want to, then now is a good time to think about changing it. If its difficult to change - you may as well admit to yourself that you have an addiction on your hands.

I hope this is taken in the spirit that it is intended - a caring comment from a fellow sufferer.

Deleted Account · Nov 28, 2013

Hy marcoshanko,

First of all, I should congratulate you on your overcoming of alcohol addiction. As far as I know, that's no small feat. Maybe you missed one of my sentences. I wrote that I know about my addiction, although it's true, that my symptoms are not severe. I considered your suggestion, whether if it's a "not yet" as you've said, but I don't think it is. What I mean is that I PMO-d much more often in the past years and I've watched much more hardcore stuff then, then I do now. And by now, I mean the last...I don't know, two years, maybe.
I've already managed to limit myself, I've been in a much worse shape, although your idea is completely legit.
To tell you the truth, I have zero experience with other addictions. I've never been drunk in my life, I've never even tried smoking a cigarette, not to mention any kinds of drugs (including weed), I've always kept myself clean. Well, not counting porn of course. Anyhow, I've started a thread in the age 25-29 category, feel free to check it out. I will share my experience during the process.
Thanks for your care!

marcosharko · Nov 30, 2013

Hi Earth dragon,

thanks for your reply... I added you as a contact, since you sound articulate, intelligent and also just plain nice!

i will check out you thread - but for now, best of luck and stay strong!

dajota · Nov 30, 2013

Welcome Earthdragon to the nofap journey!! I'm fairly new myself but i've been motivated plenty just reading the resources around here.

Maybe you want to start a journal chronicling your battle against PMO?

All the best in nofap and stay clean!

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