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Into bondage and curious if it's OK to play with women when trying to break addiction?

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by mydark, May 7, 2018.

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    I've been a porn addict for most of my life and I believe it has made it hard for me to have relationships because of it. I tend to be a loner, however in the last few months I ended up in a relationship with a girl (wasn't planned) that was started because of our mutual interest in bondage. I figured exploring this kink would help me to break my porn addiction since it would give me a new hobby to explore. I planned to avoid sex with the girl and just play with her using toys (while I rebooted) and I figured this could make breaking my addiction easier, since it's a different sexual outlet where I don't need to have sex with the girl in order to have fun. I've had her over for a few sessions already and it's gone pretty well, however I'm not sure if this is OK when trying to break my addiction since I know some people believe you need to abstain from all sexual activity. If you're with a partner and you broke your porn addiction how did you do it?
     
  2. Cutting out porn and its psychological effects is done by changing your state of mind. Bondage may be part of it or separate, but trying to frame up porn as a forbidden fruit or finding activities that stimulate you in a similar fashion to replace it may not work.
    That being said, bondage can likely be practiced while rebooting. I have started to take an interest in it myself with the gf, for me it was never related to my porn habits.

    To restructure your mentality to quit porn Ive found a couple of books that have helped me reframe it in my mind.

    Where I am at currently for quite some time have felt like Ive had a grip on porn, did my streaks and felt like I could choose to use it when I wanted to. Now that Ive been trying to quit completely and been working on reframing it mentally, I noticed I have 0 interest or curiousity

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