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Increased number of emotional and sexual dreams?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Deleted Account, Jan 27, 2014.

  1. Hello guys.

    So, I'm clean for 63 days now, and I have noticed that I have quite a lot of very vivid dreams. Most of them are me being in a healthy, loving and caring relationship with a girl (not a specific girl, mind you) or I'm just having sex with someone I don't recognize. These dreams usually don't end in a wet dream, but the morning wood couldn't be possibly any harder. I don't mind these dreams, but the first kind is troubling.

    As I got to know, my PMO addiction was due to feeling alone. (i was a vanilla user, I watched the videos that are labelled with "art") I don't have a gf and the last time I had sex was about 19 months ago. That means I'm in hard mode. Now these emotional dreams are perfect while they last, but after I wake up and realise that it was just a dream, I don't have any gf, and I feel like shit. Basically my whole day is ruined, because I'm in a bad mood.
    That is because I do feel lonely very often.

    My best friend suggested that possibly I have these dreams because I think about my loneliness, and I think about my loneliness because I have these kind of dreams. Basically, I'm screwed.

    So my questions are the following, mainly to those who are or were clean for 1-2 months, but any ideas are welcome.
    Have you experienced the same increase of emotional and/or sexual dreams?
    How do you deal with them?
    Could anything be possibly done to prevent them?

    I'd really appreciate the help, because I don't want to relapse, especially that PMO will not help me with the loneliness at all, but I'm out of ideas.
    Thanks guys, stay strong!
     
  2. Angriff

    Angriff Fapstronaut

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    Well my dreams normalized. Cant say completely because i always had weird dreams, even as a kid (including severed heads etc, nothing related with sex). Also i had sexual dreams which were well, lets say not normal. They included women often but most of time i had dreams of watching porn and masturbating, how fucked up is that? :D
    Recently i had a dream in which i dance with girl in open field both dressed in traditional Russian costumes, by the way i am not Russian :D. She was strong and taller than me but with beautiful face. As we were spinning in one moment we fell on the ground and i fell on top of her. She frowned and i got confused, then we rolled and that's where i woke up. That was most normal dream including girls since, hm, well since i can remember.
    I do not have strong boners in the morning, i got them during night. I think that every time when i wake up in the middle of the night it is up.
     
  3. R.C

    R.C Fapstronaut

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    #1. Yes I have. Sexual that is.
    #2. I enjoy them.
    #3. Prevent dreams ? Sure , don't sleep :D.


    You friends was right , kind of. You're obsessing over the fact that you're "lonely" ,as you put it , dream of something you want - a girlfriend - and then get depressed because it's a dream on not reality.

    I'm not entirely sure why you don't just go out , meet people ,stop being lonely and get a girlfriend , but yeah.

    I know people say "it's easier said than done" , but that's not true. It really is as easy. The only reason why it seems hard is because it's new , different. You're probably not that outgoing and the entire idea scares you.

    Like other (most) changes , it takes some time before you get comfortable. At which point you're gonna realize that pushing through was one of the best decisions you ever made.
     
  4. @Angriff...oh my. :D I'm sure a dream expert therapist would piss himself from joy if he could analize your dreams. :D

    @R.C.
    Not sleeping seems like an idea worth considering. :D

    Yeah well, it's not about not getting a gf. I mean I had no trouble getting one in past times, I just grew tired of hopping from one girl to another. (short relationships mostly, 2-4 months) I'd like to settle, and that's not as easy as getting just "any" girl, if you catch my drift.
    For I think finding someone who you can spend your life with is not a numbers game. It doesn't work if you try as many girls as possible, hoping that one of them will be the ultimate finding. At least this approach hasn't worked out for me.
    But searching for the "one" is putting unnecessary pressure on me, so this approach doesn't seem to help either.

    Maybe I search for the cure of loneliness in an entirely wrong direction. I mean if I could do something against it on my own, that would be great, for I wouldn't have to rely on someone else to make my lonely feelings disappear.
    I should find a way not to feel lonely without a girlfriend, and this way I could deal with the dreams. But how do you do that?

    Any suggestions?
     
  5. Angriff

    Angriff Fapstronaut

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    You should do things that fulfill you and satisfy you at the same time. Yes wanting someone is completely natural and desirable but natural is also to feel completely confident with yourself by yourself (and of course i do not include masturbation here). If you do not have passions try to discover them. Maybe growing plants (legal ones :D), learning a language, programing, music etc. For example currently Im learning German, javascript, work out every day, refreshing my knowledge of HTML and CSS, i got two websites and from time to time i record radio show for my followers. I should maybe try to continue my Hungarian but there is no proper course out there. And at this point i suppose that i got enough activities to fill my day.
    Just DO NOT let those other things become central in your life specially if you want girl that bad. I mean there is nothing wrong with being alone if you want to but most of people need someone and obviously so do you. You just need some distraction to suppress it a bit so it wont be that BIG problem which stops you to do anything else.
     
  6. reddude

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    This stuff sometimes happens.

    If I see something that really turns me on, I could get so horny that I actually get depressed.
     

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