In terrible stage, and needing assistant

Hey Min, i can relate to the feelings you're having at the moment but don't give in to them. Don't let them take over and as you rightly said, you cannot throw away your dedication just like that. You've been strong for a long time now so you just need to keep focused and keep busy. Don't give in bro, there are comrades all over this forum, we're all in this together.

 

Yes, I can relate to this. I recently went through the mood swings myself after my longest streak yet. They lasted for about 10 days, but I suppose it's different for everyone. Persevere and you'll stabilize eventually. It gets better, you're not going crazy. : )

My advice about the girl, such that it is coming from a 26 year old virgin, is that there will be plenty of other women in your life. It's not the end of the world if she isn't interested; you certainly aren't at your best right now, so don't take it personally. There's nothing wrong with taking the time to improve yourself while flitting between relationships. I don't normally encourage being passive, but given your current emotional instability this might be a skirmish won by retreating.

 

16 days is nice. I got to day 37, when I was feeling bad I went to sauna, there was sometimes naked girls it's nice. And when I felt like shit who won't have a girlfriend even after nofap I smoked a cigarette.

 

It's true from my experience. You cannot suppress your sexuality for more than ten years and then expect to be a sexual tiger.

 

Well the lack of experience might make it hard to impress some slut who has been with 20 other guys before you, but that's not really something to aspire to. Good sex is about connection and enthusiasm not technique.

I'd say you gotta focus on working to build yourself up first. Self improvement should be your priority. Until you've developed some confidence and self-esteem for yourself - any relationship you get into is going to be a disaster. So many people are depressed, leading mediocre lives, not achieving anywhere near what they're capable of - and they think finding a girlfriend is going to boost them up and fix all that. No way. A relationship just makes you more of what you already are. If you're depressed and have low self-esteem you'll just attract someone else in the same state.

 

Min, that doesn't make sense.

As I lost my virgnity when I was 21, when I read your statement I looked for the "science" about this.
In fact, Losing Virginity Later Linked to Sexual Problems.

But, learn this for life: correlation does not imply causation.

In the very article is written: "Our results do not allow for causal interpretations," the study authors write.

That is, the two things are linked, but one doesn't cause another.

That makes sense. Probably you're still virgin because of anxiety problems. Anxiety also causes sexual problems like premature ejaculation or ED. Because of that they are linked, but again, one is not the cause of another.

So, don't worry about the fact that you're still virgin and that is a curse for life. It is not. Work on your self improvement, and that will solve both problems.

 

Well, I think your problem can be both: psychological/mental related and NoFap. In fact, in this case, NoFap may be a big cause for psychological problems.

But I think that you're good. You go to parties, talk to people. There is no problem in isolate yourself sometimes. I think that's perfectly normal. In fact, even depression is normal and almost everyone will face it at least once in life.

Related to your thoughts about sex, it's your choice. I think there is no problem with that too. Just don't create a problem with this, because, as I said, there is none.

 

http://antidoteforall.com/

just try it, you only have to do it once, its only a few minute exercise, just self awareness, its not even meditation or any thing like that. its very simple.