In need of expert advice

@jest
I feel you Bro!

This is probably your brain adapting to a new, normal dopamine level and what your going through is a combination of starting flatline and withdrawal symptoms. If your constantly exploring new ways to reach ways to get more satisfying O, this sounds very much like an search for yet another dopamine high.

My suggestion is to try focusing anything else in life than porn or sex, cause that's what I did in that same situation and it worked. At least to me. Get a new hobby or revive an old one. Minimize your screen time outside work to minimize temptations and go for a walk for example. Put your headphones on, crank up that Best-Song-In-existence-of-human-kind and get your heart pumping. This does two things:
1) You get to burn off that excess restless energy you have, and
2) It's much easier to concentrate your thought into what you're doing instead of constantly thinking about abstaining.

Or, you can do something else that demands your whole focus instead of thinking sexual things. Michael Schumacher (famous F1 driver) once said that he used to fly RC-helicopter before race just to get his focus out of that race so he could relax. He said "If you're not focused on that helicopter whole time, it's gonna crash. You have to concentrate your mind solely to keep that thing in the air so you just can't think anything else".
I use same method myself. I can't afford an RC-helicopter but I go for a walk and if I'm particularly anxious I do some push ups during walk.

I don't know whether this helps you or not, but give it a try and stay strong Brother. You can do this and we're all here to help you

- Mike

EDIT: I'm an IT entrepreneur myself so I know how hard it is to stay away temptations when you're sitting by yourself day in day out

 

Hmm, what's a more satisfying O? Aren't all orgasms the same ?

What's an erection for the sake of it ?

 

You need to do a particular sadhana to reach your goal, it seems you want to give up sex altogether if not sexual lust altogether to achieve something higher, so you have my admiration.

I've seen nobody on this board that says has 0 sexual desire even in front of beautiful women so chances are nobody can help you.

Getting at that level can be achieved solely through heavy spiritual practice, it's not on the internet westernians have no idea about this.

In order to achieve complete absence of sexual lust in mind, tongue, ears, mouth you need to realize Divine Love towards all human beings, which is easier to be said than to be done.

Maybe PM I can give you some guidance

 

From where I stand you are rocking it! Obviously everyone's goals are different but take a step back and see how far you've come!!! I don't know how long you were hooked on PMO but if it was a long time then you're doing great and will need to give it more time. Just keep up the good work and you'll get there. Our behaviors weren't learned at the snap of a finger and they won't change at the snap of a finger either. Know that you're doing great and keep aiming for longer and longer periods of time.

 

Part of your conflict is the continued identification with the sex process - is it really you? A woman doesn't lay claim to her monthly ovulation cycle, she knows it is nature working its agenda through her body. Sometimes I think men forget it is the nature of the male sexual energy itself.. it is power and we like to identify ourselves with it, to lay claim to it as 'us', as opposed to seeing it as something working through us.

I think you should investigate the idea of accepting your place in nature. You've obviously put tremendous energy towards bettering yourself and achieving what is in all fairness quite close to the optimal frequency for an active male, especially in the modern world, and for that you should take it as inspiration to keep going;

You could try celibacy for a period of time, I mean you don't have to masturbate.. you are in control of your body after all, hands don't work themselves. For that you have divest yourself of sex from the mind, or at least strip much of the identification with it. Desire will remain, unless you become enlightened, but even then the impulses still remain (but you remain totally free of them).. it is part of the arrangement of being a human being, we are here to reproduce, that is what nature has programmed us for. You need to make peace with that fact my friend.

I've done two 6 month celibate streaks, and I'm starting another one now. The first month or so can be turbulent but at around the 4 month mark you start to enter into quite a powerful and peaceful state. But sex is always there, it will always have a direct pipeline into your mind.. the trick is turning away from it, not getting caught up in it, indulging it, playing with it. It can be done but it requires humility on your part too.. not to beat yourself up if you wobble.. understand that you are an animal and don't ever forget that fact.

Understand though that even with celibacy it is not forever. You can take a break but it is part of your make up until you die. Make peace with that and you'll make some good progress - your frustration has become a rationalization.