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Thanks so much and this is really helpful!!

 

Lool I think he meant DM

 

How to block facebook and twitter on windows:

https://techglimpse.com/block-social-media-websites-windows-trick/

Seems to work for me.

 

DJ, Thank You for taking the time & effort to write up this guide! It's really helpful & full of great tips. Excellent strategies & insights!

 

This was really helpful! Thanks!

 

@D . J . Thanks for the guide it is really helpful. One thing I am really trying to ingrain into my behaviour is never to touch my penis except for washing or going to the toilet and then of course only very briefly. Making it tabu to touch there. I find this a very simple but very useful rule - it is something I just do not do.

 

I'd like to submit the following strategy. I respond to tough love pretty well and can use it for motivation. So whenever I get urges or thoughts of PMO, to myself I say things like:

"Only little punks do that kind of thing. I'm no punk. PMO is a pathetic insect and I am not. I'm better. I won't be some pathetic mongrel. I'm better than this."

It helps. Me, at least.

 

I just wonder if sleeping in a jock or tight briefs might cause some problems. I sleep in pyjamas in winter and in shorts or naked in summer. Particularly when abstaining i can get a lot of night time erections waking me up. I would worry that friction with tight clothing would only lead to something worse. My stategy is to lie on my side and remove anything in contact with my penis until it subsides.

 

Yes, I am with you on this one. I find it is important for my penis to be unrestrained and to stiffen and soften as it wants, so I am naked all year round. I always lie on my right side in bed so it can hang out with no pressure and I do not have to make any adjustments as people have to with pyjamas and underwear. There is nothing counterintuitive about nakedness.

 

Very cool

 

The cold shower thing is to have power over our actions after you turn it cold then put it back hot your body will say don’t do it again putting it back to cold will give you a great sense of power over your thoughts

 

Thank D.J. for all these advices and the time you spend to welcome new Fapstonauts !

 

Yes I 2nd that! Thank you D.J.!

 

I like the acronyms. Unique. Just wanna share some more from a counselor on Psychology Today that are relevant to our journey through recovery/rebooting here. And btw I would have liked the post but so far each time I click on this thread I am already at 50 likes for the day!

1. R.A.I.N.

The acronym RAIN was originally created by Michele McDonald. Here is a modified version by Tara Burch.

R – Recognize what is happening
A – Allow life to be just as it is
I – Investigate inner experience with kindness
N – Non-Identification.

Recognizing means consciously acknowledging your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Common signs of automatic reactions include a critical inner voice, feelings of shame or panic, the runaway, negative thoughts of anxiety or the heaviness of depression in the body.

Allowing means letting your thoughts, emotions, feelings, or sensations to simply be there. You don’t have to change, fix or act upon anything. Rather, you acknowledge and accept that psychological pain is a part of life.

Investigating means calling on your natural curiosity—the desire for truth—and directing focused attention to your present experience. Asking, ‘what is happening inside me?’ can initiate recognition, but investigation is a more intentional process.

Natural loving awareness occurs when you don’t over-identify with your flaws. This practice of non-identification means that your sense of self is not fused with any limiting emotions, sensations, or stories. You are not your mind, and you are not your emotions.

2. T.H.I.N.K.

Hallmarks of anxious communication include negative self-talk, reacting in the heat of the moment, over-explaining yourself (AKA, emotional vomiting), and obsessive attention to overanalyzing decisions. Before you speak, ask yourself the following:

• Is it Truthful?
• Is it Helpful?
• Is it Insightful?
• Is it Necessary?
• Is it Kind?

3. S.E.L.F.

The following strategy is adapted from Kathleen Hall, founder of The Stress Institute and Mindful Living Network.

Serenity. Practices which reduce the production of stress hormones are key. This could be deep-breathing, meditation, yoga or a walk in nature.

Exercise. The calming effects of physical fitness are endless. And you don’t have to hit the gym to reap the benefits. Simple stretches while you work, or opting for the stairs rather than the elevator, count too.

Love. In addition to reducing stress, spending time with others means you’re taking in another person’s perspective on a situation. Connecting with others also means less time spent inside your head.

Food. Nutrition has a major impact on moods. Processed foods, and excess sugar, salt and alcohol can increase stress levels. Consuming foods rich in vitamin B6, such as bananas, nuts, ******, or **** are recommended. Additional healthy choices include whole grains, blueberries, and oatmeal.

4. R.E.L.A.X.

Recognize when you are consumed with worries.

Eliminate toxic thoughts which contribute to your negative emotions.

Let go of the anxious mindset that seeks reassurance that everything will turn out okay. Failure is a part of life, and life doesn’t always go as planned.

Attitude is key to problem-solving. Adopting a flexible, open-minded attitude reduces feelings of insecurity and fear, and the habit of rumination. An added benefit of a positive outlook is less reliance on others for approval and validation.

X-tra sleep. As a psychotherapist, I’m a huge fan of sleep hygiene. Making sleep a priority is a must for mental health and physical and emotional wellness.

By implementing the acronyms RAIN, SELF, THINK and RELAX, you are creating space between anxiety and your reaction to worries. Anxiety feeds off of drama, details and inaction. Don’t allow your world to become so small and constricted that you forget that psychology can be simplified.

*****

 

"NoFap works best when you see the damage PMO has done to your life and you want to regain what you have given away."

I don't mean to bombard this thread with comments so last one before I move on here to the next. I think for some people they cannot see the damage readily enough as they are sheltered under their parents who are unintentionally enabling a growing monster of a vice which is PMO.

My advice to those old enough is take a good hard look at your home life before the vicegrip tightens to a degree where you have no other options but to choke on the damage it has done.

And nice idea about shame. A video that was just shared by YouTube with me:



Thanks for this thread again it is very intensive and detailed!

 

Hey D.J u made my motivation to reach at some another level..thanx man really really helpful..keep the support man.
I want to ask u one thing.Initially how many challenge should i start with.