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I'm Worried About My First Time, Can Anyone Help?

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by Sabre7, Dec 12, 2017.

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  1. Dec 12, 2017 #1
    Sabre7

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    So last night I was having a good time with a girl I'm starting to see, but when things got more serious I'm worried PMO'ing has ruined my ability to orgasm. She was giving me a handjob (or trying to, she wasn't entirely sure what she was doing since it was her first time in a long time doing it) and I was feeling no stimulation whatsoever, no different than someone moving their hands up and down your leg.

    On top of that she gave me a blowjob, but I was feeling nothing from that too! I feel so broken, she was understanding about the whole situation, but I was so frustrated. I wanted to give her the satisfaction of making me feel good too.

    Keep in mind I have been touching myself about once a day for the last few years.

    Have I ruined the sexual nerves in my dick? Is there anything I can do to fix this??? Please let me know as soon as possible.
     
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  2. Dec 12, 2017 #2
    57yrold

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    If you're having trouble with erections, the simple test is:

    Can you get an erection to porn?
    Can you get an erection with no porn, no fantasy, and just touch?

    If you can get erect to porn, but not to touch, you probably have PIED.

    As far as the sensitivity of your penis, and DE (Delayed or difficult ejaculation) I really don't know, but you could try a hard reboot. No P, no M, no O, for at least 90 days. See how things feel then, and if your PIED is gone.

    I know this isn't a great answer in regards to this girl, but I bet if you shared what was going on with her, she would probably be understanding. Maybe even helpful and supportive!

    Sorry you're having these issues. I'm hoping you can overcome any obstacles.

    Best of luck to you.
     
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  3. Dec 12, 2017 #3
    Sabre7

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    Thanks for the words of support! The erection wasn't the issue, it was the sensation of touch that wasn't "getting my engine going" for lack of better words. With respect to your response, I'm going to try my best to stop PM'ing, but I wasn't sure if there was something else wrong with me. Also she was really understanding which was awesome.

    Also what does PIED stand for?
     
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  4. Dec 13, 2017 #4
    BjornTMV

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    Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction (if I remember correctly) Basically all you know and enjoy is porn, and the real thing just isn't enough anymore.

    I am the same way, I don't seem to get any satisfaction from touch, or intercourse of any kind. I used to watch a lot of porn.. like a LOT. I know it has messed my idea of what sex should feel and "look" like. My brain requires every sexual encounter to play out like a porn. Thus I decided at least 90 days hard mode. I need to rewire my brain. Even though I am just a couple days into it, I've gone for 3 months before (boot camp and training etc) so I know I can do it.

    The desire for sex increases and you want it more and more, the longer you hold off and stay disciplined, the better it will be in the end. I imagine you 'forget' the porn after a while, you forget the enjoyment of your hand and only desire the natural feeling.

    stay strong brotha!
     
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  5. Dec 16, 2017 #5
    GG2002

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    Yes there is something you can do stop watching porn and give up masturbation for 90 days don’t touch yourself at all except to clean and use the restroom. If you can get aroused with porn and your own hand it’s PIED and maybe death grip. You have trained your body to respond to porn and your hand, neither of which mimic sex. Women are soft with a softer grip and no mouth or vagina ca mimic the grip of your hand.
     
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  6. Dec 17, 2017 #6
    Kurenai

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    It seem you suffer of an effect of "death grip". You have trained your penis to hard stimuli.
    Search in this site and in ybop for death grip.
     
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