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I'm starting to see the ridiculousness in porn

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Mordobarn, Dec 13, 2018.

  1. I haven't been long on my hard reboot, but I have been thinking about it a lot. Unsurprisingly.

    I've started to find that the thought of porn seems just silly. Ridiculous even. Watching people strip, play with themselves, or have sex.

    If I think about it, I think, wait, seriously? Why would I want to watch someone else enjoying themselves?

    It's like, instead of going to the kitchen and getting some food to eat, I watch videos of people eating food ("porn"), and then drink water ("masturbate") to give me the illusion of filling up on food.

    Come to think of it, in the East, watching young girls eat food has become a bit of a fetish amongst many men.

    That's how ridiculous it is.

    Keeping my mind on this ridiculousness is helping me to feel complete indifference towards porn. I don't miss it.
     
  2. Someone posted a thread similar to your thoughts here a few months ago that I appreciated as I battled to break the habit.

    Lots of good stuff in older threads, once in awhile I'll go back and read through them.

    The thread was basically, What are we watching? What are we doing when we watch? Does it make sense? The OP's answer was no, it doesn't make sense we need to stop. Perhaps I'll be able to find it later and bring it forward.

    For me not only does Porn seems ridiculous but also evil, all of it. From the vanilla stuff all the way through the spectrum to the "embarrassing to mention" perverted stuff.

    And the M-ing, good grief. I think back to it now and it also seems ridiculous. I wrote it out in my private journal and here in my public one.

    Sitting alone pulling on ourselves or laying on the bed grinding our crotch into the mattress instead of going out and enjoying life or doing something constructive that needs to be done. The idea of going back to a life of constantly doing those two things turns me off. And being totally honest, I never thought of M-ing in such a way until a couple months ago. It's such a ridiculous thing I was doing for 40 years. Let's maintain our dignity in public and in private and quite the P and M.

    Best wishes to you!!!!!
     
  3. Haddock

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    In my opinion, when you're craving for porn, you're not rational anymore. This is why you have to be away from porn for some times in order to notice how ridiculous/strange it is ! It's good to remember your thoughts when the urges come :)
     
  4. Romans 6 23

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    One post that helped me have a break through was titled something like "cuckold training 101: how porn trains you to be a cuck"

    I was always disgusted or weirded out by cuckold porn. The post was basically this "when you watch porn you find a woman you are attacted to and select her, you then send her to a room to get fucked by a different man. mean while you fap to her getting fucked."

    I had never thought of it that way! A cuck is something I never want to be! I wish I had read that before my reset on friday. I might have 41 days instead of 6.
     
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  5. Haddock

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    This is indeed completely weird when you think about it. In normal life, you would be kind of possessive (you want the woman only for you !) whereas in "porn life" you're fine with her getting fucked by someone else. It's really strange we can enjoy that !
     
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  6. Uncomfortably Numb

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    Excellent post... I believe we all 'need an angle' to help us through this.
    And any of the above work for me
     
  7. Unibet

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    C'est vrai. T'as raison. In life, you don't want your girlfriend to be with anyone, but in porn, it is okay
     
  8. I wrote this in response to another thread, but it's worth putting here to remind me!

    The reality behind porn (and a bit more)

    Porn is a fake friend who makes you feel good just before abusing you, to make you hooked, and then criticises you for doing exactly what they told you to do.

    It is an industry that takes advantage of, and abuses, vulnerable men and women of all ages. It makes use of trafficked men and women, sometimes abducting them and sometimes conning them. It makes use of modern slavery (and sometimes old-fashioned slavery). It ruins lives.

    Then, in the few times when my brain suddenly wants me to look at porn (it doesn't happen often), I remind myself of how damaging it is not only to me but also to everyone whom I affect. Imagine opening a porn movie… and seeing your own daughter there! The urge passes quickly, within less than a minute.

    On top of all of that, I have made a solemn vow to not use porn again, for all the right reasons.

    There is no good reason to look at porn, unless you're a researcher into that area or a detective trying to track down criminals (traffickers, paedophiles, etc.). I'm neither a researcher nor a detective.

    One more thing. When I think of porn, instead of remembering the bright, exciting, close-up pictures, with lots of movement, sound, and titillation, the image that I make in my head is black-and-white, dark, distant, silent, still, dull. This is effective.
     
  9. hollyman

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    Indeed and congrats on actullay snap from it


    I remeber one porn category that snap me from it, and it was extreme porn


    After watching that i realised that, what am i doin enjoying women beaten up nearly death . Its like people killed by criminal in front of me, and instead helping im just grab some pop corn and enjoy the killing


    But thank god i can snap from it, and start to seeing women as ordinary human
     
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  10. You really affected my thoughts with the comment that it could be your daughter...or your son...think of that...God forbid... if one of my kids caught me... its inconceivable. 18 days and counting. Thank you for a great reality check.
     

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