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I'm new, do I have a problem?? I'm married.

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by jman1234, Jun 26, 2017.

  1. Jun 26, 2017 #1
    jman1234

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    Hello,

    I'm wondering if I have a problem, because I don't watch porn.
    I don't like watching other people have sex.

    I have been married since 2001, and we have sex at least once a week
    on average.

    But when she has a period, I watch mixed wrestling and masturbate to that. I also wrestle with my wife before we have sex.

    Even when she is not having a period, I watch mixed wrestling and masturbate.

    The longest I have gone without ejaculating is 2 weeks since my late 20's, now I am 48.

    My wife and I have a great relationship, sometimes she jerks me off.

    thanks
     
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  2. Jun 26, 2017 #2
    Protagoras

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    Jman: If you have been checking out this website and have signed up, odds are you might have a problem. I share your wrestling fetish. While I certainly have watched porn, wrestling has been my real trigger. I think one can have a sexual addiction or disfunction even if he is not watching people having sex. The problem comes in where we objectify people (e.g., ogling women on the street) and use that to replace a real intimate relationship. That is why I joined here. In my first marriage, I had to watch a women wrestling video before I could "get going" so to speak. I also confess to using my wife as a masturbation tool during sex as I replayed a wrestling video in my head. So, even if you are not watching sex videos, I believe you can develop and unhealthy sex addiction. Some of the questions I would ask myself if I were you: Do I enjoy watching wrestling more than having sex with my wife? When I am having sex, what am I thinking about? How many time per week do you jack to wrestling or thoughts thereof?

    Good luck with your journey.
     
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  3. Jun 26, 2017 #3
    D . J .

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    Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and sometimes challenge you but not judge you.

    You are using wrestling as porn. You are not the first to do this.

    The enemy is here to steal, kill and destroy. What are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?
     
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  4. Jun 27, 2017 #4
    jman1234

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    thanks for your replies,

    I'd rather wrestle my wife and then have sex, once we are having sex,
    I don't think about wrestling, I just want to make her feel good and then myself.

    I can get hard without watching mixed wrestling, by just being near my wife or with my wife.

    I'd say I'm addicted to having an orgasm. Its a stress release and feels great of course.

    I'm sure my wife would not like it if I retained seaman for a year like some are doing.

    There has to be a balance.

    Sex in marriage and intimacy are important.
    Unless I don't cum when I have sex with my wife, I can still make her feel good.

    I can first start by not masturbating anymore.
     
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  5. Jun 28, 2017 #5
    D . J .

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    D . J ., Jun 28, 2017
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