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Im eighteen with a four inch girth. Please Help!

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Sam Smith, Jan 8, 2017.

  1. ..Anna..

    ..Anna.. Fapstronaut

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    There was a guy with the tiniest thing I have ever seen. It didn't stop me for getting crazy about him. Unfortunately, lol. Turned out he is the biggest perv and low moral person I have known also, so I don't want to see him anymore. But I guess low self- esteem about the small size is what led him become like that. Don't go that path.
     
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  2. You’ve seen too many porn monster dicks. Stop worrying about the size and learn how to use it.
     
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  3. You have enough, now all you need to focus on is the motion of the ocean and the flow of the currents ;)
     
  4. elevate

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    The thing with obsessing over superficial things like penis size is that it leads to obsessing over other equally unimportant petty things.

    You will never win the game of comparison. There will always be someone with more money, materialism, success, and physical attributes.

    "If I had this and that, then I can be confident." That line of thinking will never be satisfied. There will always be something else. Another pre-requisite before you can allow yourself to be who you are and live your life.

    That is your penis. Respect it and be thankful for it. It's for some, but not for all. Just as you'll like certain things about other people. Everyone has different tastes. You're basically worrying about being liked and approved by everyone. You think one person that doesn't approve of you and rejects you will be the end of the world. So you think something petty like penis size is the problem.

    The problem isn't your penis. The problem is you have unrealistic views about yourself and the views of others.

    Being playful, adventurous, bold, daring, having fun, laughing, and treating a woman with respect has done way more for the orgasms of the women in my life than my penis.

    If you're focused on superficial things (especially about yourself), then you're being self centered. Thus you aren't able to think and feel what the woman thinks and feels.

    For the most part, the only time women will care about your penis size is if you let it affect your confidence, which in turn affects how she feels as well because your negative thoughts express themselves in your behavior, not because of the penis size itself.
     
  5. Runtilmylegsdropoff

    Runtilmylegsdropoff Fapstronaut

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    Everyone wants a big peen or a Lamborghini.
     
  6. Haydenbecker0

    Haydenbecker0 New Fapstronaut

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    I’m literally identical to you with age and size
     
  7. rob13_

    rob13_ Fapstronaut

    Nah, nobody really cares about dick size dude. You probably care more then the woman you fear to disapoint.
     
  8. Infrasapiens

    Infrasapiens Fapstronaut

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    Do not look this kind of things, this is the "Anti-pornography". It is only there to make you feel bad.
     
  9. Coolyorky

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    They all fit my friend

    Stop over thinking things bro
     
  10. lolos

    lolos Fapstronaut

    Stop caring about things you cannot change
     
  11. The Pickle Whisperer

    The Pickle Whisperer New Fapstronaut

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    The pickle's size is not important, for all sizes of pickles can end up in a bun.

    What matters is if the pickle is crispy & cool. Everyone loves those kinds of healthy pickles.
     
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  12. waldek420

    waldek420 Fapstronaut

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    i'm about 7", which isn't even very large, and you know what most girls i've slept with have said it hurts them. and that's not a good feeling. there's good kind of pain, and bad kind of pain. this was the bad kind, and it would ruin the moment. i think maintaining an erection is more important than size. if you can stay hard for at least 25 or 30 minutes that will produce a much better experience. since i have PIED, i have trouble maintaining erections. i also can't have "fast" and "hard" sex, it makes me lose my erection too. ugh.
     
  13. ReclaimedLife

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    Trust me i have been where you are right now. And the worry took a huge tall on my life until in turned 31. I am at around 4 inches girth as well. And porn and society made me believe that i wasn't going to be able to make a girl happy in the bed.
    But that is all fucking BULLSHIT! All this shit does is make you worry about something that isn't even a problem yet. It would only be a problem if you have a girlfiend or a lover who isn't happy with what you have.

    Seriously, those people aren't good for you anyway. They either have psychological problems themselves or, if you aren't a match down there, they don't even want to adress the fact that female kegel can have an impact on how much more tight she can become.

    NEVER let your dick stop you. Or your height. Or your intelligence.
    The key is to build your life around what you have and who you are.

    Go to the fkn gym, go swimming, running, dancing, any exercise is good for you.
    Develop yourself and don't look at your dick as something negative.

    I have had sex now as well, and i know that it was stupid to worry about my size. It will just take away from the amazing experience that sex can be.
    You gotta develp yourself in all the areas in the bedroom that make a good lover a good lover...

    Be attentive to her
    Kiss her (a lot)
    Tease her a LOT (more important then kissing!!!!)
    Have fun in the bedroom, dont make it a fkn competition
    Figure out what she responds to more, some need light touch, some like it rough from the start.
    Become good at oral. And i mean really fucking good. The better you are at giving her oral, the more you can send her to heaven and if she is a good girl, she will pay you back.
    Learn positions that are for smaller dicks. Acknowledge that it can be difficult at times, and as the man, it is your job to know what to do.
    Everything where she has her legs together or even crossed with give you both a bigger sensation.
    You can also put a small pillow under her hip..
    Combine a small pillow under her hip with lifting up and crossing her legs, and both of you get a "Wow-position"!

    I can go into more detail, but i dont want to be too triggering.
    You can ask me anytime, just send me a private message, i have a lot more that i can tell you how you can become really good if you are below average with your dick.
    Which again isnt a problem with your dick, its only a problem with your head and the respective mindset.

    But i know how hard it is. Fucking very very.
     
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  14. Wayne Kest

    Wayne Kest Fapstronaut

    It's big enough, relax. Work on the muscles to use the damn thing effectively.
     
  15. BurglerHobbit!

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    You guys keep saying PORN is not real life. It's not PORN that made women crave thicker penis. Its not PORN that have many woman claiming they prefer to stay away from relationships with white men because of penis size. I have a small penis myself. I've been rejected for it and have experienced in person women explaining dislike and discomfort for small penises. I have no reason to make any of this up either. I'm in the same boat as most men, I have a 5.3 inch thin penis w. Less then 3 inches of girth. Women want to feel you inside of them, they want you to break them and they want to be stretched out. They dont want to be tickled by no noodle. I'm not sure if you guys are just trying to be polite, or are part of an older age group, but a vast vast majority of the chicks i know and have dealt with (<27y/o) want a thick dick, even if it's on the short side, if its fat enough to give her a nice stretching, then its fine. A penis that is thick enough could have a women dripping all the way down the man's legs with a simple back and forth thrust. A small penis will require all sorts of foreplay and special, exhausting positions, that end up in turn becoming boring because of the lack of pleasure and increase in time everything takes.

    I know I'm going to be disagreed with because I see what the popular opinion is here. But what so you have to say to the 2 dozen white women I know of that would only sleep with back men, a few of them prefer color, not just black. Then I know spanish and black women who are also in the same boat, and have experienced smaller penises and have expressed their hope to not have to deal with such an experience again. And that it's not something that they would want to be in a relationship with. My girlfriend of 8 years was a tiny woman, she left me for a colored man, my height but much, much wider (literally fat...like fat fat, titties and all) and bulkier. I could imagine his penish might be much shorter then mine because of his body fat, but much thicker. Yet she still found with guy 2 years before we broke up and entertained him.

    TLDR: For a lot of people they arent getting this information from porn, they're getting it from woman first hand. Even the guy with the long thick penis will tell you how they line up for him to screw. It's a cruel cruel and unfair world we live in. Nothing can be done about it. Porn may or may not be to blame for why women want to be stretched out dripping all over the place while physically feeling each trust decimate them. But I highly doubt that, it's simply enjoyed more to the latter. Porn though is not the cause to every small man's problems, maybe to some, but not to all. Women and the desire for a larger penis is.

    P.s. this was very long, sorry. Just fyi, I'm 30, living in Queens, New York.

    Edit: Wanted to add, as I said before the woman I was with was tiny (I took her virginity, I'm sure she played with it before but I was the first penis.), there are times where I think, how could I ever please another woman, especially one larger then her who has experienced the rush of feeling a larger man stretch her open. Almost makes me feel worthless and useless at the same time. I'm a handsome guy, all the girls wanted to get with me growing up, even still I see woman checking me out all the time. Not trying to hype myself up but I get women of all ages checking me out on a daily basis. But my conscience has been absolutely shattered, I'm absolutely terrified of have a negative experience with a more experienced woman then my last one. I literally had one chick that appeared to seem disappointed that I didnt approach her recently, after we made eye contact a few times. I get my fair share of complements as to how handsome I am, and I'm grateful for that because it's good for my self esteem but it's no use when the idea of sexual penetration comes to thought. There have been a few times where I thought to myself that I might just be better off gay.
     
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  16. harold1111

    harold1111 New Fapstronaut

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    You don’t need to worry at all, a womans vagina when not penetrated is 2-2.5 inches, so it’s anyway going to expand after you put your penis in it, just chill out, don’t watch porn, it’s not real
     
  17. unimportant

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    Size only matters if you aren't trying to please the woman (or dude, whatever suits haha). They only care when they know you aren't going to take the time to pleasure them and the best they can hope for is something enormous so they can at least feel *something*.

    Just communicate when having sex, learn what she likes and provide it beyond her expectations.
     
  18. Your dick isn't everything. You have hands and a mouth too man.. Utilise gods gifts.
     
  19. Icouldprobablyhelp

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    have you tried a pump? I hope NoFap is going good for you.. try not being so tense, yoga tantric breathing and reverse kegal like the force fast peeing motion and sit-ups.. you can do this
     

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