Im eighteen with a four inch girth. Please Help!

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Sam Smith, Jan 8, 2017.

  1. Sam Smith

    Sam Smith New Fapstronaut

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    So I just recently got into researching about penis sizes to compare to maybe bring up my self confidence. I always knew i was on the small side. Im almost 6" in length, but 4 in girth. All of the other things i have seen said, "yep, youre screwed", or "Just put about 10 condoms on". I saw this site and it seemed a bit kinder. I dont think im through puberty completely yet. Do I have any chance of growing enough? You can be harsh. Am I or am I not? lol
     
  2. Sam_Tri

    Sam_Tri Fapstronaut

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    If you give in to these kinds of fears they will eat you alive. They will consume you.
    I know they are very real, but they do not need to have this kind of power over you.
    This is not what is most important in life, don't let yourself be convinced that it is.
     
  3. waterworld

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    That sounds more or less bang on average for penis size. Seriously do not expand another moments anxiety about this. Its not nessesary and cannot change anything. As far what makes sex magical for a partner penis size is almost incidental..
    And forget about anything youve ever seen in porn - that stuff is bullshit
     
  4. Zombie_Chickie2.0

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    Hello! Woman here :) I'm 28 and I've seen many dicks and had sex with large and small ones. You kid will be just fine!!! Stop thinking about it and just go be yourself. 90% of sex has zero to do with your actual dick. Focus on learning to please a woman- step one: no porn lol that's all fake.
     
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  5. Sam Smith

    Sam Smith New Fapstronaut

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    I soo appreciate you guys, and gal!! I just don't have a huge selfesteem, and stuff like this gets to me the most. Lol Im kinda awkward socially and really don't know how to handle any kind of relationship with a girl. Maybe it's because I don't have a dad to talk about this kind of stuff. I havnt had my first kiss, and my first try with a relationship was quickly ended by another guy stepping in without me knowing. Again thank you all. I like forums like this because I can let it all out and you all are so supportive
     
  6. Zombie_Chickie2.0

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    If you need a lady friend to talk to you can message me :) I have a little brother so I totally understand! I offer my support to anything the dudes here can't help with lol hugs
     
  7. DonDraper

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    Don't worry about statistics or averages. Your ideal penis size comes from advertising and porn. Stop basing it on those insecurities and focus your energy on other parts of your life.
     
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  8. IggyIshness

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    The problem with porn is that it corrupts and us sex or porn addicts always think big dicks are all about it, they dont get that not ALL woman are porn stars..
     
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  9. Sam Smith

    Sam Smith New Fapstronaut

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    Hey thanks!
     
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  10. Hisself

    Hisself Fapstronaut

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    I'm in the same boat as you in a way I'm pretty sure my girth is less than that and my length is 4.5 hard. I actually never had these worries when I was using pmo mostly because the content I watched didn't involve penis's. Anyway a short while into my journey of NoFap I had an extreme anxiety start to build about this that's been really fucking with me after seeing all of those size matters videos with girls and forums talking about penis size and I realized I was really small.. I used to always be confident but it might have been a false confidence because after being exposed to the knowledge of my size difference I can't get it back or when I do I feel like I'm kidding myself.
     
  11. success091

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    There's no point worrying about it, it's out of your control. Worrying about it won't do anything. You're 4.5 inches, the average is like 5-6inches, I can understand your concern if you was 3 inches. It's like the 5'10 person being upset thinking he's a manlet when the average in his country is 5'11, no one cares unless you're like 5'5. Accept it and focus on something in your control like goals, this type of mindset will eat you alive.
     
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  12. Zombie_Chickie2.0

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    My ex had a 9 inch dick it was huge and I had a lover who had 4 inches and let me tell you I got off more with Mr. 4 than I ever did with 9 lol

    Stop reading that shit!

    A real woman knows it's more about everything else vs just the dick. Mr 4 would rock my world to the point of me panting and being exhausted. I miss him lol the sex was epic

    You are a normal healthy man and your dick is fine :)
     
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  13. Hisself

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    Well thank you for the encouragement it means a lot, it's quite a recent concern of mine I honestly never thought about it before this NoFap journey and it's a shitty anxiety to have. It's strange in a way because before NoFap I was very confident and outgoing and now on NoFap I've had points lower than ever before in my life as far as self image and sometimes it's hard to hide because I perform on stage and feel like I have to act like I wanna be up there when I don't due to anxieties I've never had or anticipated having on this journey. Luckily right now I feel particularly good but I know not to expect it to last because these anxieties have crept up out of nowhere and hit me hard multiple times. I don't know if they're flatlines or suppressed anxieties or both but either way there's not much I can do about it and I just hope that one day I can find someone who will accept me without a long road of confidence killing encounters.
     
  14. Zombie_Chickie2.0

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    You suddenly feel these things because your not hooked into the addiction. Your brain is having a temper tantrum.. when you feel this way try to think of your brain as the enemy:) there's an excersise you can do daily and it really helps! Every morning and night go in to your bathroom and repeat a mantra (self positive) 3 times while looking directly into your own eyes.. try it for 30 days and yes it sounds silly and you will feel ridiculous for the first week of doing it but I promise you it helps!!! I've been doing it because I'm healing from also feeling less than and shitty about myself.. so give it a go and I hope it helps you like it's helped me.
     
  15. Strength And Light

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    I know you think that having a bigger penis automatically gives you self-confidence, but that's not how it works. I'm as hung as any white guy I've seen in porn, and here I am, on a website for porn/masturbation addicts just like you. Self-esteem/self-love is not built from your physical appearance. It's built by learning to love and accept yourself as you are. I got addicted to webcam cybersex because I was always chasing compliments about my size. Women would lavish praise on me , but the praise would get sucked into a void within me, because I had no SELF-love. You can't create SELF-love through the compliments or praise from others. I kept jumping from woman to woman, not understanding why I wasn't being fulfilled - why my confidence was still suffering.

    If you're worried about your penis size, and trust me you are fine, what you likely need to work on is self-esteem. There are lots of ways to cultivate a healthy self-esteem. Do a google search and read up. Take it serious because it will have a profound effect on your well-being and happiness. Best of luck!
     
  16. Hisself

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    I'm glad it's helping you, I will give it a go no matter what it can't hurt so I might as well see if it works for me. Hopefully this isn't tmi but I think a lot of my insecurities are due to the fact that I have a pre porn fetish for tickling that goes back to before puberty that I've always known made me different and I couldn't stand it by the time I found porn I felt I already needed an escape and I was quite young, too young to even masturbate to it. Also everyone in my family is quite tall and my father would always tell me you'll be taller than me one day, idk why he thought that but he was convinced I wound up being 5'7 in the only male in my family under 6 ft so that was another confidence killer. I was also quite overweight as a kid and wound up practically starving myself and smoking cigarettes as a teenager to lose over 100 lbs and now I have this guilt to myself that I stunted my growth in all these ways to do what I thought was bettering myself. Somehow I still built up a very outgoing character and confidence in what I do but I think after stopping pmo a lot of this is coming to the light again I just hope that at the other end of this journey I can have a somewhat normal sex life and please a partner I think it's extra intimidating because I've never thought about sex or watched sex in porn or thought about penis size until NoFap. Thank you for your advice and listening and I hope I didn't go on for too long.
     
  17. Shin Iu

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    Fapping would make imbalance chemical in your nerve system, which would damage your body fitting. Before you do exercise, make sure you never watch sexual or touch sexual or think sexual stuff to prevent lose you nutrition. Even you wouldn't know or believe, fapping would be an "expensive" process for our body, and this is the way to make a birth, so you could image why you came here.
    A lot of actors or actress had mental illness, and the more you watch and imitate, the higher chance you get a mental illness like depression.
    Walk away from sexual stuff like a pastor, Shall God Award you and improve your destiny! Don't get driven by your thoughts, but control them. You are the owner of your thoughts instead of the slave.
     

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