I'm dependent on feet to achieve O.

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Nadav_co, May 30, 2019.

  1. Nadav_co

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    Hey guys,
    first, excuse me for my bad english, It's not my main language :)
    Iv'e been in nofap for a year in order to terminate porn from my life forever.
    As many of you, I escelated to a really harming P categories(which i prefer not to mention) that caused me ED, wondering about my sexuality, anxieties and losing my attraction to females.
    my main goal is to get my full libido back, As of now my recovery is still in progress and i feel like it's getting better.
    I was born with a massive feet fetish, It makes me aroused much more than anything else in a females body. i remember i was staring at females feet since i was in kindergarten and fantasized about Touching them, massaging them and licking them especially milfs feet.
    I have to say i was never proud of that fetish and i've always kept it as secret becaue i felt shame. But with time i accepted it and learnt to Live with it and love it.
    as i kept P escelating i lost my libido to feet as well and moved to another extreme porn which fked up my brain completely by brainwashing.
    As you can see i'm over 90+ days of pm streak right now.
    Luckily I recieved 3/4 of my feet libido again but the problem is that im dependent on feet to O. My attraction To breasts and butts are still at 0.
    I had sex with a girl a few weeks ago but i couldn't even get hard by her Blowjob, kissing her, touching her, and peneterating her. I Only got hard by touching her feet and as soon as i stopped, my erection was gone.
    I find it really disturbing that i'm now dependent on feet to O.
    Dont get me wrong, I LOVE feet, the thought about licking them and touching them makes my erection go skyrockets. But i HATE it when nothing else arouses me.. i'm too emberassed to share my fetish with a partner so i never really got to act on women feet(only touching them). And that's the only way for me to reach O these days.
    I feel like i can't satisfy a women now and i feel lost because i can't enjoy sex.
    HELP
     
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  2. GaryMayor

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    I think you should discuss this issue with a sexologist. There can be a lot of factors there.
     
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  3. Nadav_co

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    You may be right but the answer ill probably recieve from the sexologist is "stop with porn".
    You see, My Feet libido is almost completely back, probably because its a fetish and the most arousing part in female body for me.
    I do still have hope to get the rest of the libido back(to other parts in female body which are not feet).
    If you meant that i should see a sexologist because i have a feet fetish, then no, it's actually pretty popular than we actually think.
     
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  4. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    Lots of guys are into feet. I'm sure you can find a girl who likes her feet kissed :)
     
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  5. I know it can be difficult, but I would discuss it with your partner. Good communication is crucial when it comes to sex, you want your partner to know what you enjoy, and they may even have things they like that they haven't yet told you about because of embarrassment just like you.

    I think they might be more open to it than you think. A foot fetish is the most common fetish in the world, and I would say most guys at least pay some attention to women's feet. I certainly do, even though it isn't the only thing that can turn me on.

    Good luck to you @Nadav_co! :)
     
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  6. aliasghar1378

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    bro i talk to you as an experienced one i was so obsessed with feet! we have been brainwashed with that kind of pornography ( it wasn't enough for me i used to watch brainwashing vides on tubes!!! you need to reset your mind just act like you love breast or some other parts after a while you live blowjob and others, we can deceive our brains easily
     
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  7. Nadav_co

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    Lol bro, i had that feet fetish since i was born It's not Porn-Induced.
    But porn certainly brainwashed me to the point i felt nothing for feet anymore. That was the most bizzare point for me which probably introduced me to Nofap. once i lost my attraction to feet i was so stressed, I just knew that porn has messed me up.
    Hopefuly your'e right, Our brain is not an easy enemy to defeat.

    Thank you for your warm Response!
    As of now, i don't have a casual partner, She was just an hookup and i gave it as an example :). But your deffinetely right.
    As soon as i'll have a casual partner or a girlfriend i'd have to tell her about my fetish. I think being honest and sexually opened with your partner is a must. If she has problems with my fetish then i guess It's a no from me :)
     
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  8. GaryMayor

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    Being into foot is okay for me, as well as being into whatever you want. Liking something atypical isn't bad. The problem is you have struggle with it and cannot maintain erection in normal sex. This is a problem for you. This is an issue you should discuss with a specialist. What do you expect from this thread? You talk you have problem and you don't have it at the same tims.
     
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  9. Orest

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    wait!isnt losing your attraction to feet a good thing??
     
  10. Orest

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    a sexologist wont say to you "stop with porn" he will try to see if theres a psychological reason you are masturbating so much,like "is there anything bad going on in your life right now?" trust me ive been to one!
     
  11. Nadav_co

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    NO! It's a really bad thing!
    Just as were born straight or gay, I was born with a feet fetish so it's natural to me. i already realized it in kindergarten. THIS IS WHO I AM!
    Porn did the opposite . I escalated to some dark categories which i deeply know they're NOT who i am.
    I felt guilt and disgusted and suffered from anxieties but i wasnt aware to my actions and kept messing my dopamine levels(like most of us). So i continued with P just because i was looking for more extreme and excitement.
    This addiction confused my sexuality to the point i had 0 attraction to any part in the female body.
    I decided i'm putting an end to this BS, All i want is to become myself again.
     
  12. Orest

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    you know that a foot fetish can also lead to worse fetishes right?
     
  13. Orest

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    *im not telling you to let go of your foot fetish,im telling you to keep it and not let it escalate to anything else!being curious is not a good thing in this case!
     
  14. Nadav_co

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    Never heard of that. Maybe you meant that it might lead to an harming obsession and any obsession is bad. But this is not my case.
    What might lead us to worse fetishes is porn and porn only. It makes us think that wer'e bored from a certain catergory.. what actually happens is porn lowers our dopamine so we keep trying to find more excitement and we find ourselves finding new fetishes which definitely dont describe us. And that's my friend is an escalation.
     
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  15. Considering the fact that it's a fetish that's innate to you, as in it's not porn-induced, I think that as long as your partner is comfortable with it, then it's really basically harmless. Having a fetish isn't necessarily a bad thing, it's just a part of who you are.

    Now, I'm a guy that's also into feet, even though I'm not dependent on it to get off. I think there is varying degrees of what you would consider a fetish from the very mild to the very intense to the point of being the central object of arousal. And as I said, I don't think either is bad as long as it's just part of who you are, and it doesn't cause anyone any harm or discomfort in any way.

    Good luck to you, man! :D
     
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  17. Orest

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    The thing is,its better if you dont get bored trust me! Ive seen many guys in this platform talking about how a foot fetish lead them to masturbating to more extreme fetishes like femdom and sissy porn(dont look it up) so im not saying that your fetish is wrong im just saying its better to have this instead of something more extreme!
     
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