I'm Addicted and I'm Helpless to Stop

I perfectly agree with you man, porn is a lie it is not natural, it is disgusting, disrespectful and sexually very abusive and demeaning. Reducing a woman to her lowest possible state of being nothing more than a sex object is the goal of porn and that has rubbed of on us! Iam glad that we all have taken the initiative to move past this and fall in love with the world and people for who they are

 

Yes my friend! That is the spirit, you’ve got this, keep striving!

 

I agree. For instance, a person who isn't addicted doesn't have to regularly make the conscious effort to abstain... They just move on. An addict like myself has to keep a consistent upkeep of their condition in order to REMAIN clean.

 

Congratulations! Whatever you do, don't make the mistake of "rewarding" yourself with porn. I read about that too much as it is. Just keep going strong!

 

Congratulations!

 

I think I'm going to find an SAA group in my area. I live in an Oxford House and go to AA meetings so I think it might really help me.

 

Thanks so much!! And congrats!!

It’s great to hear nofap and SAA has worked. I’m doing both and am at 42 days. You are an inspiration!!

 

In a pinch the SAA phone meetings work. There’s a 9pm pacific time on saturday nights whic does line by line discussion of the AA Big Book which is pretty cool, if you like learning about the book.

 

I did want to say, also, congratulations on 100 days!! And to you too for 42. Totally awesome. I've only ever had 22. I'm working on a week right now and I could use all the support I can get, I'm actually even thinking about bringing it up to my AA sponsor.

 

You should. Also be prepared for him/her to not understand and tell you thst it’s completely normal to look at porn. This happened to me in AA. I don’t fault him, he just didn’t know.

I have a friend though, who works with his AA sponsor and goes to one SAA meeting for the fellowshiping but is working the steps around sex addiction specifically with his AA sponsor.

So it just depends.

Either way it’s a good idea to bring it up.

 

I was thinking about waiting until we reach the part of the steps that dives into our negative behaviors (including sexual behaviors). Specifically because if I just say "I want to stop watching porn and masturbating" before we get there, it won't make as much sense as saying all the fucked up sexual behaviors I've had, and THEN saying it? Right?

 

It depends on your trust with him. I found that honesty is the best option. But yea, the 4th step will start to cover the sexual stuff. And if you yell him earlier ou never know. He might have some really helpful suggestions.

The Big Book, leaves the sex inventory pretty open ended because everyone has a different understanding about limits. You can check out the “circles” that SAA outlines to figure out what you’re ok with or not.

 

Thank you for your honesty. It helps me to stay sober