Im a fucking trash!!!

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Boochen, Jul 27, 2019.

  1. Boochen

    Boochen New Fapstronaut

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    Guys I am 25 yo next month. I have never had a girlfriend, never kissed a girl, never
    had relationship etc.

    I have been PMOing since I was 9 yo.

    I would love to start a relationship but:....
    +sociofobia/social awkwardness +5'7 tall manlet +3,5 inch erect micropenis.

    My longest nofap streak was 15 days but I relapse everytime because I think that my penis is going to shrink even more without it (use it or lose it).
    I relapse because I realise that I am no match for taller, more intresting and self confident guys with bigger dicks. So I am trying to apply penis extender and it fuckin slips off which causes me to break in tears.

    I just want to commit fucking suicide because I know that even though I try everything to get better and improve myself (gym, decent job, exploring new sexual techniques, 3 languages fluently and still going, etc) I still wont be able to satisfy a woman and surpass alpha chads. NEVER!!!

    According to society I am just a pice of garbage that does not deserve love, affection or sex from a decent woman.

    Is there someone who was in similar situation and could just give me a hand? I am drowning...
     
  2. Freddiefox

    Freddiefox Fapstronaut

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    Brother, you are here, breath.
    Read, learn and start making your plan.
    When you feel at the bottom where do you go?
    This battle is in your mind but you can come out on top.
     
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  3. DGZ

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    It's much more about attitude than it is about looks. Even though you were dealt a bad hand, there is much in our attitude that girls are attracted to: confidence, honor, masculinity, humor, etc. If it was totally impossible for 5'7 males to get girls, we would be extinct as a species.
     
  4. Kiz Whalifa

    Kiz Whalifa Fapstronaut

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    bruh.
     
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  5. CookyMonster

    CookyMonster Fapstronaut

    You call yourself garbage and trash. I saw myself for a long time as a contaminated unworthy alien walking around, bringing death to those who would interact with me,, cause I caught the HIV virus back in the 80s when it was still a death penalty ... @Boochen Stop comparing yourself to others. Take yourself out of the competition, change those garbage beliefs you have of yourself.
    The harder you try to fit in the more you suffer. I know that myself. Was adapting constantly. I have some codependence issues as well as sex addiction and substance abuse issues.
    Start loving yourself. Easy to say I know. Do not look for approval or validation out there. Look for it inside you.
    I‘m with you. Cheers
     
  6. Mr.Chips

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    You are not a bad person as long as you keep trying, don't ever give up buddy, it is never too late, I have a similar interval of addiction as yours, but we can change to better once we stop this addiction. Don't ever give up no matter how much weak you feel. Be from the minority who did something for their lives :) Start from today and keep learning about strategies that will help you against your addiction! You can do it!
     
  7. WalkingForward

    WalkingForward Fapstronaut

    Please reach out to a suicide hotline or go to a hospital and tell them about the suicidal thoughts.

    Suicides haunts and tortures family members / other loved ones for their whole lives.

    Life can be difficult, painful and unfair. But suicide is never an option. I think you need to reconsider your priorities, sex can't be the sole meaning of life.
     
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  8. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    You've never had a girlfriend. That makes you trash? No it doesn't! You are a human being that deserves dignity just like everyone else.

    Also 3.5 inches is technically not a micro penis. Even if it was you t should still try. The worst that could happen is they will reject sex from you. Maybe they will laugh but who cares about done dumb bitch. Just find your confidence within.
     
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  9. ryguyuplift

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    Hey man,

    I understand your frustration. I have a hard time getting laid too and I'm 5'10" with an average-sized dick. I was a virgin until I was 23. My advice for your virginity is to lose it now. Stop putting it off. Get some cia, via, or levetra online, find a fat ugly chick, and soldier up and do the deed. You need to learn how to have sex so you actually have a chance with better-looking girls. I don't have a magic pill for you, but I do have some solutions.

    Small dick:
    This should be an easy fix. In today's day in age, with male enhancement, the sky is the limit on your penis size. I enhanced mine with a cock pump and an extender and it changed my life immediately. I recommend looking into male enhancement and taking it seriously. This will help you a lot.

    Small size:
    This is controversial, but I would highly recommend taking steroids. You want to be big right? Then what are you waiting for? First of all, I hope you lift. If not, start there. I've always been small, and like male enhancement, steroids have helped me change my life for the better. Fuck being a small wuss. If it's not in your genetics, enhance your genetics. If you want to be big, take it seriously and do whatever it takes. That's just my opinion. You'll unfortunately never be taller, and that sucks. It's out of your control. Focus on what you can control which is your size and strength.

    Bad with girls:
    I would also recommend getting into pickup and dating. Ideally, with coaching and wingmen. Changing your game can change everything. I've used tight game to outcompete jacked studs. I can remember one of my ex-girlfriends bringing me lunch at my job (as a planet fitness desk worker) and me fucking her in the utility closet while all the jacked studs with real jobs questioned the nature of reality because they knew I was doing it. Game trumps everything. Look at Neil Stauss. He is tiny, old, and bald. Odds are he has a small dick too. He became a world-renowned pickup artist and his wife is a 10. It can be done, but don't mistake it as being easy. Odds are you will suck and be forced to find an average girl to be your wife, but this is still better than what you have now, so I recommend getting started immediately and take it seriously. Get your finances under control and buy coaching if you are serious about results.

    These are just a few solutions that worked for me that you might want to look into. But, lastly, you aren't trash. You feel like trash because you are hooked on porn. We all do. Block every last trace of porn from your phone and computer. Find an accountability partner who holds the password. For me, it's my therapist. This way you can see what life is truly like without porn. I guarantee you won't feel like trash anymore.

    Furthermore, you're lonely, like me. This makes us feel like shit. I can guarantee you if we got laid tomorrow and had a girlfriend, all of our feelings of worthlessness would go away. I know this because I've experienced it. The same can happen to you. Focus on what you can control now and do whatever it takes to get laid. I kid you not, getting laid and having a girlfriend, AKA not being lonely, changes everything, as does not using porn.

    Hope this helps.
     
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  10. HustleMan

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    Whats a chad?
     
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  11. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    An alpha male. It's a meme.

    Example:

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  12. Robinthehood

    Robinthehood Fapstronaut

    Hi. At the moment you are coming off a 16 year run of porn, right? With pmo you are probably believing that your body and sexual ability etc are all that matters in a relationship. They aren't. Dude you could get together with the most beautiful woman on the planet, it's totally possible. You sound like you have a lot going for you already, imagine how you will be after some time without pmo?
    So stick with it, all the best bro.
     
  13. HustleMan

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    Thats some toxic bullshit right there
     
  14. I didn't have my first relationship until I was 28.
    It was the first time I had kissed, too (though we broke up; we weren't compatible).
    You CAN overcome porn!
    You CAN have a relationship!
    And since you've never had a relationship, how the crap do you "know" that you wouldn't be able to have a good, healthy sexual relationship with whoever you would marry?
    Remember, "You don't know what you don't know."
    I use to worry if I'd be able to have a normal sexual relationship but found out that not only is the possibility of marriage and a normal relationship possible but that recovering from PMO will help with that.
     
  15. cadia guardsman

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    What if a guy named Chad is an incel?
     
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  16. Selix

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    I'm 27 neither had a girlfriend and relationship, but kissed a girl

    dont be so hard on yourself

    first of all fix your confidence... you can even attract girls with a sloppy style

    then get yourself a new haircut and new clothes.... if you are balding go jason statham style (there is nothing more sexy than a confident bald guy)... for the style I would recommend a personal shopper, who can give you good advise

    for your small size I'm 173cm, like napoleon said: its not the size of a man that matters, its the size of the heart that matters

    according to me society is just a piece of garbage that does not deserve your attention.

    stay strong soldier

    take your time and you'll come out on top
     
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  17. stoneyman22

    stoneyman22 Fapstronaut

    things get better
     
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  18. Kiz Whalifa

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    I can relate to everything before the micropenis. I was the same way at 25(3years ago). The alpha Chad comment made me wonder if you were trolling. The society part, too. Other than that, just focus on learning more about people. A lot of women might want to talk to you, but you view yourself as trash. As for the bigger dicks part, no women really cares(that much, if they love you). Porn simply warped our perception of sex.

    Love yourself, omg. It's gonna change your perception. You are loved/loveable, you just don't realize it yet. Feel free to message me.
     
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  19. SirErnest

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    Heavy post! You seem to have rather a lot going for you, so I reckon you should try a doctor and/or therapist, plus if things aren't working try a new angle.
    And don't even use that term 'alpha'.
    There is a reason you are here, so that shows that you still have gas in the tank, my friend.
     
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  20. Okay bro, I will try to help you through this! Look, studies show that penis size is directly or indirectly related to a man's self esteem, so I can completely understand why you feel insecure or worried about yourself.
    We will tackle every problem sequentially. Firstly, talking about height 5'7 is a decent height to be honest. Even I around 5'7-5'8. Yes you might be shorter than some males, but you're mostly taller than women, and usually thats what a women looks for. Date women who are shorter than you so that you feel a little more confident about yourself.
    Coming to the dick size now, 3.5 inches in my opinion is enough to stimulate the gspot located at the top, inside the vagina. Also, your size is overwhelmingly perfect for anal sex. You can satisfy any women with a clitoral orgasm. So you're good to go, I just gave you 3 things, there are many more.
    I'll share my personal story with you, I'm quite thin, not that tall ( I mean Im 171 cm ) , my dick is above average sizes all over the world. But my low self esteem, and porn escalation made me watch cuckold, interracial, humiliation and also femdom videos during the end (all after 4 years of escalation). I didn't know what I was doing to my plastic brain. I was subconsciously encouraging it to get aroused by these extreme fetishes which I wouldn't want to happen to me in my real life. I realized two of my biggest problem. Pornography and low self esteem. I thought I couldn't satisfy my partner etc and would need someone else to do it. it was fucked up man. The thing is, a guy with 4inches would want to be 6 inches and a guy with 6 inches would want to be 8. And 98% of the world is less than 8inches I guess. While the other 2% are mostly into pornography. That's what cause us our insecurities. We watch them fuck hot girls, we would like to fuck and then we realize we just can't be as good as them because we're not huge.
    All these insecurities, its time to say bye to them. Fuck what the world says about your height, weight, size. What matters most is what you feel about yourself. Have you heard anyone say, you can't be the CEO of Google because you don't have 8 inches of dick? Have you heard anyone say, you can't climb mountains because you have a smaller dick? Fuck that. Dick size doesn't help you anywhere except for your one night stands. Go make money and complete your goals, you'll see how bitches run behind you, not giving a fuck about your dick size. You're one of the best, who has some talent or the other. If you think you're unfortunate having these parameters, god probably has given you something much greater than these things, you need to go and find those things now :D I wish you all the best for gaining self confidence and self love. Message me if you feel low, I will respond to cheer you up my bro.
     

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