I want to do abstinence from sex, need more info

Discussion in 'Abstinence, Retention, and Sexual Transmutation' started by Milkshake21, Jan 18, 2019.

  1. Milkshake21

    Milkshake21 New Fapstronaut

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    So, I know this term may sound familiar to a lot of people in here, but I embrace part of MGTOW philosophy. Don't get me wrong, I don't hate women at all, I have lot of female friends and have had lot of relationships/hook ups/sex trough my entire life. I'm not going to go to deep into why i embrace part of MGTOW philosophy, but I can say right now is mostly because I'm in a path that I want to follow to pursue my deepest dreams and goals in life and I don't want anything getting in the way. I actually have a lot of willpower and discipline built in a big part of my life by practicing martial arts ,veganism, and meditation. I'm happy living single and I just feel like I don't need a sexual partner/couple/girlfriend etc nor o feel mentally that I need more sex for the moment. I didn't even need to go in to NoFap, I just jumped straight into hard mode/sperm retention and i could even call it celibacy for 34 days and i just feel awesome. My performance in every activity I do Is like doubled effectiveness and i just feel benefits so on. I feel like I could continue in this path forever because i always have had the discipline enough to say no to almost anything I don't want in my life. I feel like i have a lot of love for myself and that what really has always turned me on in life is SUCCESS Sadly i have read that some contradictions exists about going sperm retention for too long. Of course I've already made my research but I would like if some of you can give me their opinions about going hard mode for too long. If is it necessary for my health I could get hook ups from when to when but I just feel like i Don't really need it.

    P.d: No, I'm not gay. And if I were i wouldn't care about sharing it in a forum.
    Pd2: sorry for my bad English I'm, Spanish
    Pd3: some of my other habits : Body Builder, programmer student, gamer/streamer, video editor, 5:30 am waking up, cold showers, writing (In spanish/Portuguese.

    Peace and thanks in advance
     
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  2. gagate

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    It can be bad if you have lustful thoughts, you either go full purity or you might face issues.

    Things like pressure in the genitals or blue balls.

    There's no grey area, you have to choose
     
  3. Milkshake21

    Milkshake21 New Fapstronaut

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    Hello gagate and thank you for replying to me!

    So, i'm not an expert in any of these topics, I'm just experimenting with my willpower and self-discipline related to masturbation/sex/pornography. What I know is that for male it is almost imposible to control the thoughts/emotions/responses/feelings your brain gives you, In fact what i know is that you can control your actions by making peace with your brain and driving him back to the normal state. Even though I have a lot of willpower I can't control the lustful thoughts that comes to my mind when some random girl with a perfect body start to flirts to much with me, but what I can control is the decision of whether or not Do I want to make a sexual connection with her, which usually ends in a big nope. Believe it or not , there is people like me that just don't want to get involved in to sex/relationships/marriage etc etc. I just feel like I don't need it and that I have no interest most of the time, until this thoughts come to my mind, I think after all I'm just a human being like we all are and I'm designed to have these thoughts. Go full purity sounds amazing to me. I'm very happy right know with the result I've obtained in my life, my current situation, being independent at a young age and having a lot of opportunities in life, I feel like that full purity could be even more beneficial to my situation. Can you or anyone in here orient me in to how control my invasive thoughts so I can go Monk mode? I really don't want to hurt my body by doing these things, safety is always first and if it is needed to ejaculate in to a vagina for maintaining that I will because I have no problem in to getting hook ups or casual sex, but I don't want romantic sex , I just don't want it , but if is not then I wont, I just need guide.
     
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  4. gagate

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    Well I have no lustful thoughts and tested myself many times even with naked women, it's not natural to me.

    anyways, its not that easy but the rewards are immense.

    Get obsessed on becoming pure, turn it into an irrefutable standard, get obsessed on loving all women equally without any impurity
     
  5. I used to be able to control my thoughts quite nicely when I meditated daily. Then I stopped doing meditation and now I am struggling again. I need to get back in to it. But yes it is definitely possible to not get those thoughts, or at the very least train your mind so you are not triggered and bothered by them. It just takes practice. Try doing mindfulness meditation 30 minutes a day (the more and more often you do faster results you will get) and after couple of months you should see some big improvement, if you stay consistent with it.

    As far as is it safe to not ejaculate, yes I do believe so. If your body needs to release some prostate fluid it will be done through wet dreams. Or during urination (if you do not produce enough to warrant a wet dream), you won't even notice.

    There are two types of wet dreams. One is created by impure thoughts and will make you lose some sperm. They still do not drain you as much as intentional ejaculation though. And another type of wet dream is simply because your body needs to release some pressure in a prostate, since prostate fluid can not be reabsorbed like sperm can. This type of wet dream barely drains you, if at all.

    First type of wet dream is not necessary and can be avoided of you purify your mind. And second type might be needed for proper health. It depends how much prostate fluid you produce. If you need to release for health it will happen. If it does not then it means there is no need for it. There is no need to ejaculate intentionally.
     

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