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I ruined my life. HELP.

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Calvin6285, Oct 21, 2017.

  1. Calvin6285

    Calvin6285 Fapstronaut

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    Addicted since I was 13. First and last girlfriend = when I was 13. Got put on ADD meds when I was 13. The combination of those left me craving more and more dopamine, now I'm stuck with having not dated a girl in 5 years. I've been doing nofap successfully after finally quitting ADD meds for most of the last 7 months with a couple of ~2 week binge relapses. No matter how long I'm clean I don't know how to escape the hole of having not had any desire to have a relationship throughout my teen years, and I'm just like how the f*** am I supposed to start now? I'm worried I will never have an ability to have a regular relationship, and it scares the s*** out of me. What do I do!?

    Thanks..
     
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  2. r8js

    r8js Fapstronaut

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    welcome . congratulation . u r very courageous about ur thoughts and efforts. highly appreciate it. this things will definitely help u.
    ur 18yr now. nofap have 100000members , u can be good friend or fellow member to them .
     
  3. Bale

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    Where you are today is a consequence of your past. But your past does not define who you are, let alone condemn you to an unfulfilling life. Relax a little bit. Be gentle to yourself. Life does not need to be eternal suffering. A few months ago I was in the darkest place I've been in my entire life, and something changed in me: I asked for help. And I found people who helped me. Even people who I never thought would. You are not alone. Start by reconnecting with your inner self, and you will find that new possibilities will open for you. It's all in your head my friend, therefore it's not real and it can be changed.
     
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  4. christtomato

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    How to start? Well just do it. I am not talking about pick up or tinder, I am talking about real time relationships. Start building relationships other then sexual ones, connect with people.

    Practice enough and when the attracted one shows, you will then do the same.

    And when the time comes, be direct with your feelings, getting over rejection is a thing that I think we all need to master.

    However, make sure you know how to protect yourself tho.
     
  5. abouttime19

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    Please do yourself a favor and don't take any medications that the doctors give you. War on Porn has not gained enough recognition for clinicians to seriously consider it as an addiction. I can guarantee you that most your symptoms will go away if you find a way to stop PMO. Let me guess some of your symptoms - loss of memory, brain fog, depression, feeling of worthlessness, lack of concentration, constant fatigue, inability to make good decisions, and more.

    Quitting is def the hardest, hence, this huge community of people who are trying to quit. But as you wean off porn, you're brain will rewire itself (it will heal).
     
  6. Mankrik

    Mankrik Fapstronaut

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    I'm also 18 been addicted since a young age. I have never been in a relationship or kissed a girl before. Worrying is not going to solve anything. Get the negative influences out of your life and work on self improvement and being able to appreciate yourself. Once you are confident, love yourself, and have overcome addiction, start passionately and brazenly seeking out girls that strike your interest. The only thing standing in the way of finding an maintaining a "regular relationship" is yourself and the habits that define you and the adult you are becoming.
     
  7. Jocker

    Jocker Fapstronaut

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    Sugar tits you just need to throw away you're phone computer and internet
    And start getting outside from home

    This will help you
     

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