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I really hope i just sleep , Die and end my suffer ( Femdom addiction )

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Zed94, Jan 7, 2019.

  1. LeadMeBack

    LeadMeBack New Fapstronaut

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    I know how you feel..... I've never been 100% hard during a sexual encounter.

    And I know why. I know it's because I've masturbated for half my life, and I hate myself for that.
     
  2. VENIN

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    Bro i'm in the same situation as u and the same age aswell lets share experience and let me know if u feel better than before i can also give u some good tips to overcome it
     
  3. Zed94

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    I lost concentration and i feel like i am losing my mind ...
     
  4. 4DCreator

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    I strongly believe you need a proper 1-year reset of your brain. Hard mode. You need to find yourself, start to control your thoughts and impulses, and not masturbate and touch your tralala in order to have an orgasm. When you become in control of yourself your problems will be mostly gone. Maybe not your femdom addiction but you will know yourself better. You will find out about yourself why are you turned by being submissive to women. What is a psychological issue behind it and so on? You need to clear your head and get knowledge about yourself. To pay for a bitch and then be sorry for not having a hard erection is the last problem you should be worried about. Good luck.
     
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  5. g2stop

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    Perversions are bad for your physical and mental health.

    The problem is that nowadays perversions are accepted and normalised so people do not realise how dangerous and damaging they are.

    They are EXTREMELY dangerous and you have to stop them ASAP if you would like to live a normal enjoyable life. If you prefer suffering, of course that is upto you, but Femdom ultimately ends in slavery and I prefer freedom as a lifestyle.

    If you are shy or whatever, Femdom imagery and brainwashing tricks you into thinking that’s ok and the Femdom community will accept and welcome you. The trick is that it makes you believe punishment is pleasure therefore completely mindfucking you. When you believe punishment is pleasure the most satisfying thing will ultimately be suffering and death. But this is only at the end once you have been conditioned enough. Initially it is filled with lies and the promise of sexual joy, but it is the worst path to go down if you actually want sexual joy.
     
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  6. g2stop

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    The failure of erection is just PIED. If you get aroused by a Femdom prostitute, it will get hard but don’t be fooled that you are getting better, because you are getting worse. Eventually nothing I mean NOTHING will get you hard and then you will really be in hell and suicidal. STOP all porn and fantasies before it is too late. Erections will come back after a few months. They did for me and I was addicted for 33 years!
     
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  7. VENIN

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    Don't worry everything will be okay nothing's come easy you should be very patient depression and anxiety during this period of reset is included so let me share my experience with you and i'm pretty sure it will help u and everyone here in the same situation !
     
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  8. ReclaimedLife

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    Ok. first of all, i really like that you are opening up here. Saying something is really already healthy for you.

    Secondly i won't condemn for trying to lose your virginity, even if you have to pay for it. Not knowing how it is can feel horrible for a man, especially as we get older.
    From now on, please don't force someone to do something for you they dont feel comfortable with. All this, slapping, hitting, choking, whatever you see in porn is usually done by somoeone who does that mainly for the camera. You dont know whether that person treats woman like this when the camera is off.
    An actor doesnt start walking around cursing at everyone around him, just because his persona in the movie did that. It has nothing to do with the person.

    Now, that doesnt mean that there aren't guys out there, where it is normal for them to do all those things. But that is part of their personality and they are just intrinsincally very dominant and assertive. Those men sometimes ask the girl how far they can go, sometimes they just do it. And there is nothing wrong with that as long as the girl/woman consents to it, or even likes being treated this way.
    You would be surprised what kind of girls actually like to be treated this way in the bedroom as long as you treat them nicely and with respect outside the bedroom.

    But it has to come naturally, never do it yourself if you don't feel comfortable doing it and never force it on a girl that doesnt feel comfortable with it either.
    In porn, they make it seem like every girl wants and likes that, and that just isn't the case at all.

    For you, i would find a woman who is a bit more experienced. They are more likely to be a good teacher and probably have an easier time being assertive.

    I still think it is better for you to just fully and for the rest of your life abstain from porn, so your brain can re-wire and will notice that intimacy with a girl can be as rewarding as fucking passionately with her.

    Focus on that first, and trying to read about how to pleasure a woman in bed, as much as you can. The more you prepare youself for the situation, the more confidence you are going to have in it. And after the first few times, your confidence will only go up.

    You can do it, and we are here to help you along the way.

    Good luck and all the best.
     
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  9. FrankAspie

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    You feel very bad that you couldn't have sex with a prostitute.

    Think about if you actually liked it, and it did work... You might then be worst than you sre now, because then, you would repeat that experience again and again. Instead of getting a girl friend. You would have an agravated problem.

    I know you might feel hopeless, that you can't have sex with a girl now, unless she is dominant?

    How do you feel if instead you see it this way:
    - You tried to have sex with a prostitute, you had limited time, you didnt love the person. First time ever. And it was not intimate, as you dont have feelings for that person.

    Now, if you have a girl friend, you love her and it reciprocate. You feel good with her, you can tell her what you want, without fear of being judged. This is intimacy. In that setting, you might have had the best sex ever. Better than fendom even! Because of havent tried that, you just dont know.

    I think you should reconsider what happenned there. You probably didn't want to have sex with a prostitute deep inside you. And you feel bad for not being 100% true to yourself? If that's the case, it is normal that it did not work. Dont be ashamed that you could not with a prostitute. Take it as a learning experience.

    You could also consult with a psychologist about this, so you can further deal with thise hard feelings. You might surprised what good things in you you will discover.
     
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  10. Yup!!!
    That’s what happened to me, had a few fetishes, started getting ED and just carried on, had no idea
    Now I’m doing full on hard mode reboot
    It’s supa tough, I have no way of minimising the pain, I know drugs or alchohol will slow the process
    Sometime I get such full blown panic attack that I honestly think I’m about to die
    And everyday I wake up with the “oh no not this again”
    All I can do is string the days together and have hope
     
  11. Zed94

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    I am really happy of how mush support and help peoples are giving in this forum , thank you very mush for you comments guys :)

    @4DCreator : it is coming from a veryyyy low self-esteem

    @g2stop : yes Femdom community made think it's normale thing , but real life is the opposite

    @VENIN

    @ReclaimedLife : yes broh i was really surprised when i found that 95 % of girls are submissive either if they know that they are submissive or not ! being a male submissive it like being attracted to lesbian girls , it has no sense !

    @FrankAspie : i think she was so cold and i didn't have any feeling with her ...
     
  12. Zed94

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    UPDATE :

    I am almost achieving day 30 but it wasn't a total clean , in the first 10 days i saw some pics , sometimes Femdom video show up even in Facebook ! peoples post them for fun there and i got triggered but i didn't touch my little men ...

    In the last 20 Days i almost never opened a porn site , but i still open some Femdom chat sites from time to time and what i have seen it totally blow up my mind , most of girl in BDSM sites are submissive and i think event the dominant one's are submissive also !

    There is something inside me start enjoying the idea of dominating a submissive girl for my sexual pleasure out of being horny , i kind of start trying to flip the script :/

    But the good thing , after the ED , i am not touching my penis anymore ...
     
  13. 4DCreator

    4DCreator Fapstronaut

    Woman with a "narcissistic personality disorder" won't be ever submissive. She will be gladly dominant to you and also she will gladly fuck you up mentally without you realizing. I had to get rid of a dominant hot woman from my life as she wanted to manipulate me and tell me what to do and I can even imagine she would enjoy herself in this femdom industry or how you call it.

    But because I am not a submissive guy I told her to FO as I won't ever respect a woman like that in my life and woman won't be telling me what to do. A narcissistic woman needs (must have) a submissive guy as it feeds her personality disorder. She can not have a dominant or normal guy as they would kill each other in arguments. She needs to dominate - big time. It feeds her superiority feeling.

    On the other hand, when you get into a relationship with such a woman your needs will be met fully but your life will be probably short. From a psychological point of view, you opening yourself for a future suicidal. You will become completely dependent on that woman and you will lose yourself and your own personality in the process. She will dominate your brain and your own perception. But from a point that she is badly disordered.

    Actions of disordered people never bring anything healthy into anybody's life. So be careful with your submissive fetish. You will become extremely dependent on women who will do it for you (and it will trigger and fulfill your dopamine circuit). Dependence doesn't bring any happiness and freedom into your life. And if the woman discards you, you can become suicidal because there will be no "you" left to support yourself in loneliness that will come afterward. You will be sexually controlled by her even she won't be with you anymore. It is much harder and dangerous addiction then watching porn itself. Man, this is a super fucking serious subject I am talking about here!
     
  14. ReclaimedLife

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    We are here to support each other and become better men. That is a journey that doesnt have to be walked alone, you can always find a mentor that you can learn from. The whole "walking alone like an true alpha" is fkn bs. You just have to be aware who is good for you and who isn't. And get rid of the people who stop your progress or make you feel bad.
    Its just like Tony Robbins said "Hire slow, but fire fast!".
    That doesnt mean you are supposed to be mean to the people or your friends around you, but if they don't encourage you, hold you back and think that personal growth isn't necessary, its better to just leave them be. I tend to just not talk to them anymore. There is no hate towards them. Just indifference.

    And for the comment. I do believe that 100% of the girls/women who have a HEALTHY sexuality are submissive to a guy who is dominant and assertive in nature, and that is how it feels is the best for both, men and women.
    Of course you will have variations and some girls will still portray dominant character traits, but that doesn't mean they don't want to be dominated. Even "dominated" is such an ugly word for it. Better terminology would be "giving up control". Everyone has so much shit to do, and not having to worry in one aspect of our lives can truly be an amazing feeling. Especially for a busy girl/woman.
    It can be 100/0 and it can be 51/49. But i personally think its healthier for both genders if the man is in charge in the bedroom for the most part.

    I hate the fact that i dont have more personal experience to back this up. But even with my limited experience i saw what happens when a naturally dominant, assertive man meets a sexually healthy woman.
    Fucking beautiful for both genders. Literally.
     
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  15. Zed94

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    Thanks for the big value !
    I saw aiden5 post and I realized how dangerous it is now :)
    but the narcistic women are talking about are so rare like 5 % of girls or less , I saw this type of womens tends to have 2 partners in life : 1 normal and another submissive to feed her personality and this discusting ...
     
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  16. ReclaimedLife

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    He is ABSOLUTELY right. That is one of the biggest things to learn. Knowing when someone is unhealthy for you and getting to the strenght to kick them out of your life.
    Learn everything you can about how to figure out whether a woman is sexually healthy and has a positive mindset towards men in general. If either of that is fkd up, you pay for it in the long run, big time.

    Do the work and read and listen everything about how to test a woman's character while you are dating. They test us the whole time before getting into a relationship, and its your duty for your own sake and happiness to do the same with them.
    Don't just take the hottest one home you can get.
    Take the hottest one with the best character home that you can get.
     
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  17. Zed94

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    I totally agree that 95 % are sub even the strongest one's want a strong partner that can dominate her , this why I want to reconnect with my Dom part inside and start to seek sub girls :)
     
  18. Rythm

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    The most important and good thing about our bodies is that it heals itself. You just have to stay strong. The dopamine circuit will rewire itself, just try to fight the urges. Its possible, people have done it . We get only one life bro, and I think you can do much more. Watch this guy, he has all the facts, what went wrong and what can you do. Give it a try. Stay strong .
     
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  19. Zed94

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    by the way , what you think about foot-fetish guys ? it is part of the addiction and not healthy also ?
     
  20. ReclaimedLife

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    Mate, there is literally no seeking for submissive girls. That would be every healthy girl in history who meets a man who knows what he wants from his life and from a woman.

    That is something of personal preference. Just like choking, slapping, anal... whatever it is.
    Some things from porn are genuinly for someone, some aren't. There is no right or wrong.
    Try it once, see how it feels, look at how your whole body reacts to when it happens and you have your answer.

    If yuo experience it and your whole body is in agreement, that you probably like it. Enjoy it if you find a partner who lets you do it, or better, even likes it.
    Just never force anything on someone. If a partner isn't willing to or can't provide something that is essential of who you are sexually, its better to split at the beginning or at least make sure that you BOTH are fully aware that this will never end in a relationship.
     
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