I never thought sex can be so blissful...

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  1. BarronABS

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    I am married for 1.5 years and I have a baby. I was a hard-fapper as long as I remember myself. When I was having sex with my wife who, by the way, is beautiful and super hot, also very caring and affectionate, I had to imagine lesbians or other girls to be able to ejaculate. Some days were so awful. I did not get erection so I had to blame it on some bad circumstances like fatigue. Then I would just seclude myself in the dining room, browse some porn, opening them tab by tab and fapping. After having my dose of brain fog, shame and anxiety, I would go and sleep scolding myself for lack of stong will. I never believed that real sex can be so refreshing. When I had artificial sex with my wife, I was getting headache and weakness. Sometimes my wife would feel so bad when craving for sex. So two months ago I decided to take back my life. At that time I started reading ''The Power of Now'' by Tolle. The book really opened my eyes wide. I really never adhered to some programs like abstaining myself from fapping for 90 days or some hard mode unfapping periods. I just needed time to pull myself together, to understand that all those fantasies were fake and as a breadwinner I had to be a role model for my daughter. I love her a lot. So I did not masturbate for 30 days. I had many bad moments. I had stormy cravings and my dick was in pain. But I never knocked off my course. Why do that then feel bad? I learnt to face the problems and to solve them. So after 30 days on the day 31 I had sex with my wife at Christmas night. I was like a beast. I never thought sex can be so blissful. So today I had sex again with my wife and it was indescribable. I feel human, I feel good. I feel real....... I won PMO.
     
  2. CuriousOrange

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    Amazing story, well done! Sounds like 2017 will be an amazing year for you and your wife ;)
     
  3. Nofper1999

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    Congrats mate. Very happy for you!! I wish I had ED too, because it seems easier tl cure.. But I have PE.
     
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  4. I Free I

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    Congratulations ! Thank you for the inspiration !
     
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  5. Congrats to you and your wife. No more going back to the land of misfit toys.
     
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  6. Dr. Jekyll

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    That is really what it's supposed to be!
     
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  7. Dizzy Lotus

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    That's great! [​IMG]
     
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  8. sstrain

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    Hi Barron,
    Amazing story and something I can related to. I got married a couple of years ago and have never really been able to enjoy sex with my wife. Its been 15 days since I quit P and the last time I M'd was the same 15 days ago. I had a question, my wife knows about this and is cooperating but some time she get a little 'handsy' and I am not sure if I should do that. Just for some more info, I have started getting morning wood and the discussion of sex (or spooning)does arouse me. I hope I can get my life back for the sake of my lovely wife
     
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  9. Some do hard mode, some don't. As long as your wife understands to be patient, to focus on intimacy and connection, I say go for it. Also make sure she isn't over city moe saying.0, trying to "compete" with the porn. Emphasize the relationship and intimacy above all else.
     
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  10. ILoathePwife

    ILoathePwife Fapstronaut

    What a great story! So happy for you. And your wife!
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    I would suggest you two talk about trying karezza. It's sex without O and while it can be done with only the addict not orgasming I highly recommend the wife try it too. I did and we gained so much from it! See my signature for links. As for your specific question, I would say it depends on how far along you are into your reboot, but I would say it would be better to go monk mode for at least a couple weeks in the beginning when it can be the most difficult for the addict. Have you heard of the chaser effect? http://yourbrainonporn.com/what-chaser
    Having said all that, I do totally understand where your wife is coming from. I struggled with wanting to throw out the reboot and just have sex already, when my husband first started his reboot. After all, sex is good for a marriage/relationship, right? Right. But holding off for a while for the sake of a reboot is too. The rewards are worth way more than a hand job that is over in a few minutes.
     
  11. Kae

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    Well done and thanks for the inspiration!
     
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  12. TheRealDemetrius

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    Thank you for this motivational story I can't wait for my wife to come into mylife by following nofap until I meet her I know I will be good enough I will vision her and vision myself without faping my future away
     
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  13. Jman123

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    Awesome! That's the power of getting over petty things like lust, and letting Love take it's course.
     
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  14. sstrain

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    Hello!

    I have heard a lot about Karezza and I will give it a try after some research. My plan right now is to just go with hugs and kisses till atleast day 30. If I start getting hard regularly with my wife I will try this out. Thank you for your help!
     
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  15. ILoathePwife

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    That's a very good plan! Have you heard about FANOS? See my signature. I recommend it to all couples!!
     
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  16. Maddey

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    Be careful what u wish for
     
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  17. Nofper1999

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    I would switch PE to ED at any time, ED is easier to cure and at the same moment you don't have to go 9-12 months without having orgasm or sex with your partner just to make the 10 seconds, 2 minutes, I guess...
     
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