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Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by jesusson, May 16, 2017.

  1. May 16, 2017 #1
    jesusson

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    Hello everyone !
    Well , i agree with a thought says if you think in positive thoughts then that will grab joy and happiness but if opposite then you will grab sadness and depression, we need to change our way of looking to this addiction , if we just tell ourselves repeatedly " we are addicted , porn addiction is like heroin , it's too hard to overcome addiction which is like heroin " then we are making our problem to the power of 10 or 20 maybe !! and we are giving it a very area in our brain , simply yes we are addicted but this addiction can't be beaten like that , we need to small it and put it on it's real size .

    And there is a big difference between lessening the problem and underestimating it , if we realized that difference then it would be a great point in our recovery.

    I've always been that guy who used to do the wrong methodology of problem enlargement and thinking more in the problem than solution , i hope that you got my point and understand it well.
    Your prayers are appreciated.
     
    jesusson, May 16, 2017
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  2. May 16, 2017 #2
    IamRick

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    Agreed, I think all of us give more power to PMO than we really should. Yes it is detrimental to our confidence & well being, but I't doesn't turn us into puppets on a string, we all have a choice; we can fap to bullshit in a box or go out & handle our shit.
     
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  3. May 17, 2017 #3
    Lion's Heart

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    I agree with you, and for me the only way to small it, is to focus on our goals in life.i wanted to say more but im soo tired :confused:
     
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  4. May 22, 2017 #4
    Cymbaline47

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    You know - I never say I am addicted to porn, I say I was addicted and that makes a grat difference, at least for me. I strongly believe that we have to focus on solution of the problem and not on the problem and is size.
    As Friedrich Nietzsche said "If you'll gaze for long time in the abyss, the abyss will begin to gaze on you".
     
    Cymbaline47, May 22, 2017
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  5. May 23, 2017 #5
    Andre2807

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    Say for example you still ARE addicted to porn, wouldn't saying "I was addicted" be a contradiction?

    My brain would be confused if I'm lying to myself...
     
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  6. May 23, 2017 #6
    Cymbaline47

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    No, that won't be lying. If you want to be free from addiction and you are trying your best, that already makes you free. Absolute elimination of addiction will be just a matter of time.
     
    Cymbaline47, May 23, 2017
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  7. May 23, 2017 #7
    slb

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    Important language there too. We're not "giving up" porn, we're freeing ourselves from it. It's a positive, not a negative or an absence of something.
     
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  8. May 23, 2017 #8
    KSE_[1]

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    Do you recite positive affirmations to yourself? You've inspired me.

    My thoughts are, the more you dwell on it the more it stresses you which make you want to do it and the cycle continues.
     
    KSE_[1], May 23, 2017
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  9. May 23, 2017 #9
    Low

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    Like the law of attraction?
     
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