While I felt deeply hurt for the days after his disclosure I feel like I'm feeling okay now. I still have questions - which we talk about and we're both in therapy. The reason I feel like I'm not doing this right is because many posts on here talk about feeling angry and hurt (no judgement just an observation) for a while after. It's been about 3 weeks since he told me. I feel like we're talking more, being more honest and having more those uncomfortable conversations - particularly about sex. I want my marriage to work and I feel like we're both putting in the effort. My therapist suggested putting monitoring software on all his devices which we have and I do check them. They also said it was okay to engage in sexual activity, which we have. I honestly thought it would make me feel worse but it's actually been quite the opposite. I'm not entirely sure what the point of this is? I guess, has anyone else found that positive things have come from disclosure of PA?