I feel like I can't do this.

I been addicted to porn for years. I watch so much p, and m, all the time. don't worry about your friends, we need to get a hold on this, u are smart to be doing your best to stop pmo, just know that is not that easy because pmo, it has an easy reward center, so it is very addictive, try finding something u like doing more than p, and u will be less shy to talk to girls.

 

1st) being a 15 or 16yo virgin is not that bad, you have plenty of time, plus half of your friends are just lying anyway (my experience when ppl lied to me about having sex when I was young, I felt bad when my best friend told me stories, years laters he confessed he was LYING all the time, he confessed after he lost his virginity for real)

2nd) yes, you must stop the PMO. Especially the PORN!! Because watching porn just makes you masturbate and orgasm way more than you would otherwise.

So your 1st enemy is porn!

That is in case you dont have any other addictions, which undermine your will power. Like alcohol, weed or other substances. In case you use those substances, you need to cut them away at the same time u cut away porn.

If you cut porn I know you can make it to day 10. At day 10 you are sober from PMO brain cocktail, your testosteron is full on, your mind is clear. At that point, nothing prevents you from getting that GF, as you should be confident as well at that point. From there on, you just have sex with her, problem solved.

That is, if you can get your erection, meaning, if you dont have porn induced erectile disfunction. Nobody knows now. You need to get that gf, and try it with her, ideally many times... dont get discouraged if 1st time its not good.

TLDR:
CUT PORN (and any will lowering substance if any)
DO 5-10 DAYS
GO GET YOUR GF

You relapse, because you start porn vids. Dont do that. Block them on all devices. Delete everyting u have on your devices. Leave the city if necessary, get away from wifi, have a week at the cottage or something....

 

Someone wanked into the condom and posted it anyway, doesnt matter if they lie or not. What matters is u. No substancea is good news. So cut the porn! Dont relapse in a way u start a porn vid and wank. You will not watch porn no more! And if u are beyond horny and cant go on, u wank without porn. But man... u should do at least 5-10 days without orgasm when u dont use porn. Than u gain confidence and drive to get that girl.

And fuck snap story feed man, cut that social media bullshit as well, for the sake of your own sanity. Everyone here who is serious about no pmo etc cuts that shit out

 

I was gonna say you need to find some other purpose apart from girls but you are too young for that and would probably just ignore my advise. I'd say you are way ahead cause you are enlightened by the evils of porn already. You are gonna be better than me in the long run if you stick to it.

 

I have to be honest. Brutal, but honest. From what I gather, it's really you and only you that's the problem. You've never even kissed a girl and you obsess about it to the point where you allow it to become severe loneliness.

Guess what? I'm 18 and I've never kissed a girl either. But you don't see me getting depressed over it. If anything, I look forward to the day.

You're kicking yourself for very little reason, as far as I can tell. Of course someone your age would have trouble abstaining. You're young. Undisciplined. However, if you've gone three years without making it further than a week, I feel like you're not taking this seriously and that you're not really interested in giving up PMO.

I also feel like you aren't actively attempting to learn from your relapses. Every relapse teaches a lesson, you just need to figure out what that lesson is. Ask yourself why you relapsed and attempt to find out if you can prevent the next one.

As for the self-esteem part, to me, NoFap isn't just about eliminating porn and masturbation from your life. It's also a means to better yourself as a person. Take me for example.

I used to be pretty bad at math. So you know what I did? I started playing math games. Now I can do it pretty easily. I liked the idea of playing chess. So you know what I did? I started playing chess.

I used to be pretty bad at geography. So you know what I did? I started playing geography games. Now I can describe the 7 continents with a lot more detail. You understand?

So don't worry about not having kissed a girl. Start bettering yourself as a person. Find something that you think you should know, but you don't know, and begin to practice it. Stop comparing yourself to your friends. I don't care if you think you can't or you think you can't help yourself. Stop.

If you want to do what you think your friends are doing, why haven't you done what I said earlier? Better yourself. And eventually, you'll be the apple of many girls' eye.

And stop fapping, of course. Exceed your record. Try.

 

I think you have self esteem issues, my advise would be to block porn sites and start going out there whenever you get bored. Start doing it before its too late.

 

I feel the same from time to time, but I keep trying. Even doing it less often was a tremendous achievement for me. Once a day; that was monumental compared to the multiple times per day before starting this. Since starting I've had a few 2 week periods where I didn't do it at all. That is nothing short of a miracle for me. Keep trying, and you just may end up surprising yourself. Rome wasn't built in a day.

 

maybe you're too young to quit both. I would suggest you to quit without any doubt porn and maybe keep M'ing.