I Failed :(

You only failed if you give up. Keep going...

http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?2660-Keep-going

http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?2661-Letting-go

http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?2655-The-Way-of-Harmony

 

Hi. I know the feeling of relapsing and it sucks.. Try to learn from it though, feels so much better and you make some progress towards ending the addiction.

Some things I do that might help:
1. meditate
2. take cold showers
3. Always having the door open ( if you have your own room) .
4. go to the gym och take walks outside.
5. ask yourself why you want to quit the addiction, make it really clear and use that when your close to relapsing again
6. make a schedule for when to use the computer and how much.

Stay strong bro, you can do this!

 

The same thing happened to me brother... Hang in there. We'll make it.

 

YOU DID NOT FAIL!

Making a mistake is not failing, it is called being human. You are incredibly strong for making it to where you are now. Don't lose sight of that. Everyone slips up, you'd be hard pushed to find someone on here that did it in the first 5 times let alone on the first go!

Think about it like this, if you go on a diet and lose 20 lbs, when you give in and have some cake, do you put all the weight back on? No! Pick yourself up and start again, and watch out for the Chaser effect!

Stay strong

 

Hi,

We will make it together. Do not be too tough with you, it does not help at all. Be convinced that you are going to manage soon. Install k9 to get rid of porn, it helps a lot. And if you start to edge, just stop, think of how bad you feel afterwards. Call friends or come here to help other people, helping others helps a lot.

In Christ

Nico

 

I know this has been said before, but I'll reiterate it to you...you only have failed if you quit trying to quit. What you did was relapse, not fail...and everyone relapses. It may sound old fashion, but try getting into an new hobby to stimulate your brain in another way. Something technical and challenging. Working out is good too, but sometimes after running or lifting at the gym I would comeback home and feel more apt to watch porn, so when I was going through my darkest time with porn I build a brewery in my basement. I was so focused on wiring a control panel and pipe fittings that I was better able to cope with my temptations to go to my iphone. Keep up the good fight.

 

Whenever I have relapsed (there's been a few times now) it's always disheartening but I just tell myself this needs to end and remind myself of all the reasons why I am doing this. It's not easy but I guess we all just need to stay strong and support each other. Best of luck bro.

 

I know how you feel, I relapsed myself. The worst thing is, I saw it coming the whole day. I told myself I could do this but somehow deep inside I think part of me wanted to give in, and I just accepted it. 10-20 days is the biggest barrier, I haven't made it past 20 days in over a year.

 

cincy, nice to meet you. You are a hero for making it for a while. Sounds like you have had a bunch of successes in the past year. I suggest you list your streaks in your signature box to encourage you and remind you that you have had a bunch of successes in the past year. Looking at your signature all I see is 0 hours, which is a bit dis-heartening, and tells you nothing good about what you have done, and is only part of your story. Your story also contains all your successes.
FW

 

Analyze all the whys. Why did you edge? What was going on in your head? In your mind? In your body? Where were you? What were you doing? What triggered you to edge? Did you try to stop yourself from edging? Did you think you were stronger than that? Did you think you had super powers to edge and not get caught up in the sexual feelings and arousal? Once you were edging, why did you go to porn? If you were edging and aroused, why did you not just rub out an orgasm and be done with it? Why did you go to porn? Did you try to stop yourself from the porn? How did you feel once you had a load of cum on your belly?

Here is the deal. You get to better understand yourself in this journey of growth. You get to figure yourself out. You get to analyze yourself. You get to answer a lot of tough questions to yourself. This thing has a lot to so with understanding the addiction and recognizing the triggers and overriding the triggers.

Another hint is to educate yourself about everything to do with porn recovery. Look at all the great links that Mark supplied. He always has great links.
FW