I don't know how to help him

Your story sounds quite similar to mine. My fiance started at age 11 or 12 and had been hooked since. He is now over a year PMO clean, but it wasn't easy to get him to realize he had an addiction. It took him seeing me break down, suicidal, to get him to realize the pain he had caused me. (He lied to me the entire first year we were together. I had told him prior to getting in a relationship with me that porn couldn't be in any relationship I have becuase I have anorexia.) I view what he was doing as cheating because I told him prior to getting with me that that was not to be in a relationship with me. He knew, he was addicted and wasn't aware and continued. I was heart broken. It took me a long time to get through the pain,and I still have bad days, but for me, it was worth staying and working it out because he had so many other good qualities, and because I've never met anyone where I can spend as much time with and not get bored. The longest we haven't seen each other in 2 years was 5 days because I had to take an emergency family trip.

I have a post of resources I've collected over the past year, it might help for understanding purposes, for healing as a couple, and for both you and your bf to heal individually.
https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...o-both-pa-and-so-definitely-read-this.108414/

Also, here is my fiance's success story because my fiance is also on anti-depressants and used to escape stress and bad emotions.
https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...-still-recovering-in-the-relationship.107395/

Also, here is a thread on boundaries. My post in there describes how we made it through the first year after he quit PMOing.
https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/lets-talk-about-boundaries.109686/
That thread will give you an idea of how we as partners asserted ourselves and our needs, making it clear that if the PA wanted a relationship with us, there were things he had to respect.

My 4 things that were necessary in the beginning to even stay in the relationship were
- Had to get a therapist and be in therapy
- Sends history every day to me (and I have access to passowrds of any and all accounts)
- 100% honesty (if he slipped up he needed to tell me that day)
- blockers on internet
- phone had to have MobileFence on it (android parental app, it's been a life saver)

If those things could be established, then I agreed to stay. He obviously was able to do those things, but I think talking to your bf and setting some ground rules is a good thing. It tells him he can't just do what he wants and not take into account your feelings. You deserve to be heard and respected

 

Same for me, darling.
I got lost and have no idea what should I do.
Feel for you and can relate to your problem.
Hugs!

 

Porn addiction and depression go hand in hand. He was probably depressed because of his PA, got antidepressants, which lowered his already low sex drive even further.
I just posted something similar in another post:
https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/my-boyfriend-is-addicted-to-porn.113090/

These are some suggestions for you, IF you want to help him.
I wish you all the best.