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I don't even know what to call this, but I think I need advice?

Discussion in 'Partner Support' started by Jeremyb61, Mar 28, 2017.

  1. Mar 28, 2017 #1
    Jeremyb61

    Jeremyb61 New Fapstronaut

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    Hello fapstranauts!

    I am a member since a month ago, have been pmo free for 13 days now. I am 22 years old. I was first introduced to porn at age 9, and became addicted when I was 13. I'm very excited and nervous because this is actually the longest streak I've ever had, ever.

    I have been in a serious relationship with a wonderful women for over 3 years, (she knows about my addiction and reboot) and I plan to propose sometime in the next 4 months.

    This is actually my first post and I'm posting because I'm having an emotional delima.

    So there's this girl who I've known for a year, she's friends of my other friends, we've met once and the most we've said to eachother is "hello". Lol. We're barely acquitances... Well recently she came into my work, and since then, I have not been able to forget her... especially when I'm by myself. I find her to be very physically attractive, And I'm infatuated by her. It's almost like I have a crush.

    I don't know what my brain is doing but it's quite disturbing because I love my girlfriend. She's my BEST FRIEND. There's to much chemistry, to many laughs, to many good times, and I'm also physically attracted to my girlfriend. And there's definitely nothing anyone can do to stop me from marrying her, let alone leave her for another chick. I love her. This other girl (who I don't really even know) doesn't change anything about my relationship with my girlfriend. I'm just emotionally confused. I'm sure it has something to do with my reboot.

    Has anyone else experienced this or something similar?
     
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  2. Mar 28, 2017 #2
    GG2002

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    I don't think this has anything to do with PMO but props to you for stopping while you are young. And that's it you are young and so to me a 39 year old who remembers being your age having these types of feelings and sexual attraction is normal actually it's normal at any age in a long term relationship. We are all human it happens. If you talk to some married people who have been together for years they will tell you. The difference is a committed person does not act on their desires because their love overrides them but they still think about them. Stopping pmo does not mean you won't feel this attraction it's just that hopefully it will be to a real person not a screen and allow you to function normally in bed. I suspect this is the only girl you have been with and so it's also normal to want to explore other people at your age. It could also be that you now associate your girlfriend with making you stop pmo or with being a stressful unpleasant situation and this new girl has none of those entanglements for you. I suppose you need to decide what you want and need. Good luck!
     
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  3. Mar 28, 2017 #3
    Jeremyb61

    Jeremyb61 New Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for the reply and insight!

    That's reassuring to know that this is normal. It's just weird for me because this the first time I've experienced this in the entire 3 years of our relationship. I think a part of it is because of stopping pmo. Since I'm no longer allowing myself to instantly gratify myself with fake feeling of attraction to a screen, my brain is doing what it's supposed to do.
     
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