I am so horny, but I don't want to PM

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Bryaan, Apr 5, 2017.

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  1. Bryaan

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    Hey everybody,

    I'm a teenage boy, 14, and I'm currently on Day 9. I just recognized, that I'm getting really horny. Even when I have no erection, I am so horny. And it also happens, that I see an average girl, and gets an erection in seconds. Which is not a problem at all, but it's really uncomfortable in PE lessons, hehehe.
    Just to be clear, when I'm horny, I don't need to do anything, to stop myself from PM. I don't even want to. I'm not saying that I'm cured (anyway, it wouldn't matter, right?), but nor I, nor my brain wants to do PM at all, but I'm still really horny.

    My question is, that is this normal?
    Will this go away, or this is a normal libido for a 14 year old boy (who does not watches P and do M)?
     
  2. J247

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    Totally normal for a person your age and it gets worse because that's what teenagers do.

    Your body goes through changes (aka puberty), and I might get flak for this, but you're expected to MO during that time. I personally feel like it'd be unhealthy if you don't. That's just me though.

    (Moderator Note: Bryaan made it clear in the next post that MO is not part of his rebooting parameters. This post is okay, but the subsequent posts about MO were then not. This discussion about MO has been moved here: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/masturbation-normal-healthy-thing.98513/)
     
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  3. Bryaan

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    Well, I do not think, that it's healthy anymore, just because others do it... Anyway, P is not a problem for me, I often used to M(O) without P. But O is still in the picture, I won't be a monk.
    I have many classmates, who even think, that it's a cool thing, to M. I never tought that, not even when I used to PM like 8 times a day. Well, I PMed so much, that my penis often started to actually bleed... That's not normal.
     
  4. nick9999

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    Don't use much social networking site rather talk to girls who are your fndz talk more with real people.
    Most imp don't come any negative in mind when you see a girl cuz that increase the urge more and more nd unless not solve then make a mindset that you you Lyk chick just confess it and talk to him without coming in mind how she will react.
     
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  5. Hey @Bryaan, I commend you for holding your ground when someone is trying to convince you to masturbate, when you stated from the outset that you do not want to! In my opinion, porn and masturbation are two sides of the same coin. To stop the porn addiction, I believe that stopping masturbation is also essential, at least until you are fully rebooted. Of course, when you are older, you will want a full sexual relationship with someone. But for now, self discipline and self-control are the watchwords.

    It is awesome, truly, to see a boy as young as 14 having the maturity to see this issue and be committed to facing up to it. It is not easy when you are in puberty and hormonal fireworks are going off inside so often. But it can be done. Cheers! :cool:
     
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  6. messanger

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    Such exciting times and it brings me joy to read that your on this beautiful journey.
    Such emotions ie horniness are cycles partaking in your life. The cycle of despair,hunger,happiness,success,sex,pleasure,pride , it is all transient and part of human suffering. What we want is conscious suffering , to suffer and find the gold within the goop.

    Keep being benevolent and true to yourself , keep socializing , keep exercising and maintaining hygiene!
     
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    Hey, everyone, this thread has come to my attention and after reviewing it I have found that there are some breaches of NoFap's rules.

    The applicable points of the rules are:
    1) NoFap is open to discussing P, MO, etc.. as long as it is done constructively
    2) NoFap does not allow discouragement of a users stated reboot parameters

    So, while the discussion in here meets the criteria for Point #1, it is in violation of Point #2 as @Bryaan has made it clear that no MO is part of his reboot parameters. Please, find ways to encourage him to meet his goals that do not include MO. Discussing MO vs no MO is simply off-topic.

    All that said, I'd like to clean this thread so that @Bryaan's topic can stay on proper course. While I can just delete posts, I believe the content discussed here is still worthwhile, but it would need to be in a separate thread. This kind of thing will take me some time to decide how to best do it, so until I find such opportunity, please head this notice and stay on the topic the @Bryaan started this thread with.
     
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    Hey @Bryann, sorry it took so long to rearrange things for your thread here.

    In the meanwhile, I had given your question some thought and would like to present you with a tactic for dealing with these kinds of things.

    As far as I've seen what you've said, it appears that you have a highly driven libido. If this is something that is troubling you to the degree that it is causing real problems for you in life, I'd advise you speak with your doctor just to make sure there isn't anything physiologically wrong with you. A high libido is typically normal for a young man, but, you never know! A doctor can help properly diagnose if there needs to be anything done from a medical standpoint. It wouldn't hurt to ask them, bleeding penis sounds like your drive is pretty high.

    Case in point, I used to have extreme issues with sleeping. For all the advice in the world, I could not get to sleep. I had excellent sleep hygiene. No electronics. No screens. Up early, exercising, eating well, lots of time to destress... still couldn't sleep. I went to see my doctor and it turned out my TSH levels (thyroid hormone) were through the roof, which effectively set my body on overdrive 24/7. It turned out that, somehow, my thyroid caught an infection and the infection made my thyroid go crazy. So, please, if you have any doubt, go speak with your doctor to make sure there isn't something simple and easy to fix that could help you.

    For things you can do on your own to try and better control your libido is a game I call "bouncing eyes". What you do is when you happen to look at something that is sexually stimulating, you immediately look away and do not look back. This can be difficult in school, where there is an abundance of sexually stimulating things to look at, but there are some things you can do to make it a little easier. For one, ask your teachers to let you sit at the front of the class. Tell them you'd like to give your utmost attention to the material they are presenting, no need to tell them it is because the other students are making you horny. By being in the front with nothing but a blackboard in front of you, you've cut out all the time you need to spend energy fighting against your libido to just lunch, gym, and travelling between classes.

    Hope this helps!
     

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