I am pretty typical.(Possible Triggers)

Discussion in 'Ages 30-39' started by Up2late, Aug 11, 2018 at 12:55 AM.

  1. Up2late

    Up2late Fapstronaut

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    Hello all. I am new here so forgive me. I don't know if I have a question or if I just need to tell my story. Well, maybe when I get done typing, I will know.

    Preface: I am a 37 y.o. white male. I have been with my wife since HS. We got married in 05 had our first kid in 08' and our second in 17'. We had a good sex life before and after our first kid, but it seemed like my wife switched off. Now she's good for about once a month and we all know we men are good for more than that, lol. So I would fill the void with PMO.

    Changes I have seem to had with in me: In the last year or so I have found that I see more and more stuff as degenerate behavior. Goes like this, I see porn with men and now I think it's gay to see men in porn. So I switched to just looking a females pleasuring themselves and just plain nude pics. Well that now seems degenerate to me cause I feel like I am falling for a trick of some sorts. So I started fapping to pictures of my wife. Now I read how nofap can help inn many ways. I have been working out and lifting in the gym, but reading some of the success stories, it motivates me to nofap. Nofap is not a meme i guess, but a real thing that can make you a better person.

    My last real mental breakdown: I was at the gym doing cardio after a lifting session. But the entire time I was there, the females in their tight workout cloths just kept me thinking about sex. It was distracting and I had to leave. I ran home to fap. Will nofap help me with that distraction in the gym? I really am trying to stop PMO and just have myself for my wife.
     
  2. Probably not, unless you experience a libido flatline when you quit PMO. Doing nofap will probably amplify such distractions.
     
  3. TheManDude

    TheManDude Fapstronaut

    Hi man! Married life sounds tough but is good to see you're making an effort for your wife!

    I can't avoid looking at women at the gym either, is really difficult when they are dressed showing a lot of skim and stuff but what I do is concentrate in whatever workout i'm doing specially hard, maybe putting some more weight or increasing the repetitions, that seemed to work last time and the workout ended up being brutal.

    Hope that helps, and good luck on your journey!
     
  4. Up2late

    Up2late Fapstronaut

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    Adding more weight I will do. I will have to concentrate harder and maybe do my cardio in my home gym.
     
  5. Up2late

    Up2late Fapstronaut

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    I don't look forward to that, but I guess I will have to deal with it like a man. Lifting makes higher testosterone which will raise my libido right? In which it will make it harder to maintain my focus.
     

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