Husband looking for female perspective

I'm going to move this out of the women's reboot forum. This is dedicated for women to record their journeys, not for men to solicit women on their perspectives. I've already moved a very similar thread of yours out of here, please stop doing this.

 

No worries!

 

It depends how addicted you are to porn and what kind of reboot you are planning to do. You know that porn addiction is tied to your brain chemistry, so if your wife's pictures serve as porn substitute, then they are no different that porn itself. Meaning, whatever gives you a dopamine hit similar to porn should be avoided during a reboot. On the other hand, if her pictures bring out feelings of love, not lust, then, by all means, look at them.

 

Hi I'm a female partner of an addict with PIED. I do not recommend that you look at the nude pics of your wife during the reboot it will probably trigger you. I generally think it's good to continue sharing intimacy with your wife during a reboot but that's a personal choice some guys say it causes the chaser effect and makes them want to FAP. My advice is if you do have sex only O from her. Do not use your own hand. Agree that if after a set period of time you don't O you will stop say 20 min. Make sure she's satisfied. This is going to suck for you a but but worth it and my biggest advice is be honest and understanding of her feelings. Please feel free to ask me any other questions.

 

If you have Ever looked at a picture of your wife, then used Porn, P-Subs, or used her photos in the middle... Etc... Then Those photos can be triggers.
And should be deleted.
(-,-) as my SO found out....
Because looking at your wife, in those particular pics can be stimulating later and will make you go.... Why?
So maybe delete while it's fresh.
I do know that the addiction can make the brain go, "Stimulus!" then "MORE" and what started out as your wife being sexy and sending you a random pic went to 3 hours lost at work on the Internet looking up NSFW. (my story)
One of the hardest things I've ever witnessed was my SO showing me he was deleting my pictures (some of them weren't provocative imo, but whatever) because he A) didn't want me to look for certain ones later
B) was being accountable
C) had received a pic of me and jumped from there
D) because of C) he wanted to know if since he was deleting all these pictures, I wanted any back.
It sucked.
I'd rather have him, than have him having my picture.... Also, if I ever found out, it was a picture of me that was the P-Sub that started the chain reaction that led to his relapse? That would be horrible.
I'm glad he deleted my pictures.
Just a opinion, from the other side.