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@NugetSloan I disagree.

At least partially - it can be as you said. But also it can be differently.

Basicly when you love you open up yourself enough to be hurt. You don't have to be arrogant or anything to be hurt. It just happenes. IGY you can be isolated, of course you can. Just don't be too long - a connection with another being is such a life-giving thing. It can hurt you, but it can be most important to you.

Like Adele said, "sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead".

I pray you would try to open up to sbdy again!

 

What others say can't hurt you if you know who you're and what you've done, if you live a life free of shame and build yourself to make yourself proud then the exterior will not matter anymore. You're the one that has insulted you the most

 

This is the mindset I need to work towards. I'm getting closer day by day.

 

I want sex and a relationship more than anything else. It's my primary life focus and the reason I started doing nofap. I have still never had a relationship or kissed or held hands but I went on my first ever date this year so I'm making progress. I will never stop improving, but over years of hard work and dedication I have become someone I can be proud of inside and out. I like to talk to girls and I'm not afraid any more. I found someone I know I can love but we go to different schools and I never get to see or talk to her any more and I'm not sure if she feels the same. I'm trying to Branch out and meet new people but I haven't been successful and continue to have this oneitis hanging over me. But I have to keep moving forward and try to do everything I can to one day find mutual love.

 

I am hurt too. A survivor.

 

I've been though a nice course about communication, the main purpouse is to build strong and living connection with another. Life is full of shit, no doubt there. But there's just so much more than just bad people!

 

@IGY, you are a beautiful soul and as far as I see you the wounds you’ve bore only serve to enhance your character. I understand the need for solitude, I too have had long periods of isolation and know their benefit. Sometimes we need space to heal and find ourselves again, away from influence in a quiet and peaceful place. I want to say to you though, that such a withdrawal would be a loss for all of us. However, I am confident that when you’d arise again, that you’d be back in a way that would more than make up for the absense. All the same, as you head into this time, I want you to know that we’d miss you until then and would look forward to seeing you back, feeling good and ready to face all that previously was hurting.

 

I always think sometimes it is just Gods plan for some people to be eternally alone. However, you can find peace in this state. You will never have arguments or face rejection.

 

I think there are a lot of advantages. You get to do whatever you want. I can pig out in town at my favourite pizza joint stone baked pizzas. I take trips to France and explore the louvre when I wish. Also I got a single bed. I remember when I was sharing a house with my uni buddy and he was like you need to get a double for all the action you will be getting. You know how long it takes to warm up a double bed when you're always on your own. Definitely advantages but boy oh boy do days like valentines xmas and new year suck, I'd rather just sleep through it!

 

The only thing I dislike about single beds is sometimes @Deadlihood comes round to stay. He gets super wasted then takes off all his clothes including his underwear and falls asleep on my bed. I ask him where the hell am I supposed to sleep and he just mumbles ... Climb on top.