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How to transform Sexual Energy Into Productive Energy?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Hermin, Jul 4, 2017.

  1. Hermin

    Hermin Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone. After doing no PMO for almost 2 weeks I found out that I am heading to a new problem. I don't PMO anymore, but the problem is concentration for work. I should be working like crazy but my mind is... foggy. It is so hard to concentrate when you are horny.
    Does anybody knows a step by step instruction how to transform that awesome sexual energy into a productive work? That would be sooo helpful! I googled it, but all answers are not too specific. And i think we have a unique problem here and the solution should be specifically tailored for our kind :) Any idea anybody? Thanks in advance!
     
    Last edited: Jul 4, 2017
  2. u376

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    preserving ur semen helps in spiritual growth........it may sound funny but its true
     
  3. SuperFan

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    This is partially due to your hijacked brain chemistry. One of the effects of PMO addiction, especially over a long period of several years, is 'hypofrontality', or diminished activity in the prefrontal cortex--the part of the brain largely responsible for concentration, higher thinking, etc.

    Here are some of the symptoms that indicate problems with the prefrontal cortex. This is from the book "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life" by Dr. Daniel Amen, a neuropsychiatrist:

    - short attention span
    - distractability
    - lack of perseverance
    - impulse control problems
    - hyperactivity
    - chronic lateness, poor time management
    - disorganization
    - procrastination
    - unavailability of emotions
    - misperceptions
    - poor judgment
    - trouble learning from experience
    - short-term memory problems
    - social and test anxiety

    If you're anything like me, you probably relate to a big number of those. That being said, it just takes time. Keep abstaining from PMO, and keep doing positive, healthy tasks instead. You'll slowly start to access that sexual energy without having to make it an intentional thought, and your pfc (pre-frontal cortex) will start to grow as you engage it more.

    I've been clean for 16 days ... I just got back from the gym after a f***ing awesome back workout. Felt really strong, really confident, and I think a huge part of that has to do with staying on NoFap. I didn't come up with a magic method of transmuting my sexual energy--I've just allowed it to build by abstaining from PMO. It will eventually find an avenue of release, and if you can stay strong and make sure that release isn't through sexual activity, it'll be released in some other way, and you'll probably be surprised at what you're capable of.
     
  4. u376

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    thats very right but ........can u please explain me the relation between pmo and social anxiety
     
  5. Hermin

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    Thanks @SuperFan, I'll read that book. It makes perfect sense. And yes, I relate to a big number of those. Damn! I will google for the solutions. If this Sexual energy can become productive energy for a change - that would be... nice... actually awesome! :)
     
  6. lately i have been feeling the same way. I have very important exams and I need to pass them. I am a little afraid of failure coz I have problem concentrating. At the same time, I have been feeling very horny and missing the sex with my ex so much

    personally I am forcing myself to get my study done (remove all distractions facebook, music) and remember the reward I will get out of it
     
  7. SuperFan

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    Well, having a weaker prefrontal cortex means you'll probably be less skilled at interpersonal communication--reading mannerisms, having articulate conversations, coming up with things to talk about, etc. If you can't do those things as well as other people, you're more likely to be a wallflower.

    In terms of specifically PMO vs. anxiety around real women: well, that's mainly a hijacking of the brain's reward system. If you wanted sex the old fashioned way, you'd have to become the kind of man who a woman wants to have sex with. Someone who takes care of himself, is fairly put together, etc. In other words, it takes work--and if you do that work, you're more likely to get a reward.

    With PMO, you get endless rewards with zero work. You can just push that reward button over and over and over until you're exhausted. And when you get used to getting rewards without work, it makes you much less likely to pursue real women, with the work and the risks of rejection and failure.

    Fair warning, the book doesn't really deal with sex or porn addiction. It's just about the brain in general. It's interesting, but don't expect to get a ton of information that directly applies to PMO.

    (Also: in Dr. Amen's book, he very frequently treats patients with psychiatric medication. Many of the examples he cites of people with brain problems end with him saying, "I started him on a dose of such-and-such, and he made remarkable progress." I'm personally not an advocate of pills to get over PMO problems. Just know that Amen's book is full of medication endorsements.)

    If you're looking for a book on how the brain reacts to long-term porn use specifically, I'd definitely recommend "Your Brain On Porn" by Gary Wilson. I picked up "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life" on a whim because I was able to get it from my local library and I wanted to learn more about the brain.

    Norman Doidge's book "The Brain That Changes Itself" was a fascinating one ... and while it didn't deal with addiction, it definitely gave me worlds of hope that our brains can indeed change and heal.
     
    Last edited: Jul 5, 2017
  8. Hermin

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    Thanks @SuperFan, I think I am more or less cured of watching Porn, so this books could help. I was thankfully hooked only to really soft porn - actually just nude bodies in nature. This community really helped, but sex urges now exist in vacuum. The last step and the most important step is transforming it. I was thinking of searching and making a recipe everybody could follow. As simple as possible. Maybe even do a flow chart. If this happens then do this...
     

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