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How to tackle NoFap when in an active relationship with regular sex?

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Chrislybaer92, Apr 5, 2018.

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    Chrislybaer92 New Fapstronaut

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    Good day, 25 yo male from Germany here.
    14 days ago I started my Streak of not masturbating, but relapsed to some porn GIFs without Masturbation or Orgasm. Yesterday I tried to block myself from as much acces to porn as possible and try to quit for good.

    Why do I want to pursue NoFap? Well, at 25 yo, blood values look awesome, and penis doc also said everything looks good down there. Yet, about 1.5 years ago, I had my first ED, and it has been sticking to be me ever since. Sometimes it was okay, but most of the times I had to help with blue pills. Without my gf knowing, because I dont want her to feel like she is doing anything wrong.

    After much thinking and looking at what kind of and much porn I consume (at min twice daylie), I'm pretty sure it might be that. The first 12 days where pretty hard (hence the relapse to porn GIFs for a quick fix), but I managed to refrain from masturbation, and GF was at here parents so no intercourse. When she came back it all worked okay, but I came way to quickly. Lucky for me, she is always is suuuper chill with me finishing to early and there are other ways to make her happy.

    My question is now on how to I take the NoFap challenge? We are both young, we enjoy intimicy, and refraining from that would make us both unhappy as most of the time we have our best conversations after. I'm pretty dedicated to quit porn for good, and Masturbation as well, at least as long as I get my fantasy back and would be able to masturbate to the thought of intercourse with my gf (just to build stamina somehow).

    Am I even allowed on this forum, is it even a challenge for me? It is still hard, as we are both quite busy and maybe 2-4x a month is the norm, so the "dry spills" inbetween its tough to refrain from masturbation. I usually lay in bed trying to think of something else before falling asleep. The way I was raised is also quite liberal with thinks that make me happy, a glass of good vine here and there is not unhealty, as long as I dont overdo it. The same I see masturbation, some quality time with myself would be okay in my eyes, as long as it is not to the thought of other porn actresses, or actualy material. But my fantasy in this direction is currently dead due to over consuptionm.

    Would my way of taking the challenge have also good effects? So quite porn, fap when fantasy is back and vivid with real life scenarios, keep having regular intimacy with gf.

    Would be pleased to get some answer from people in similar situations, best Regards, Chris
     

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