How to stick to a schedule while having a new girlfriend?

I dont yet know any strategies for this but i am in a similar situation with a new relationship. I have been working a lot of extra work lately, she goes to school, works and has kids, so we are trying to make a real effort for time together. We like each other a lot so we text all day long and make an effort. Just do your best to make an effort and dont get bummed or needy if somthing falls through on either end. Good luck my friend.

 

Hi I’m a woman but I know that after being single for awhile it’s hard to adjust to someone in your life, but it’s part of opening yourself up to love and relationships we all have to adjust. Don’t throw your self or your routines out the window but incorporate her into them. But most importantly have fun and try not to overthink things. When you overthink you stress and take the joy out of what should be a really fun time for you.

 

Well said, @GG2002. @ZenAF, I think it would be useful here to have more context. Are you currently in a committed relationship or do you seem to date many different women over the span of a year with each relationship only lasting a few dates? What are your intentions when dating ... is it to have sex or develop a serious relationship with a woman whom you may later marry?

I would like to congratulate you for your discipline in scheduling each day over the span of several months; therefore, achieving your goals. However, your post concerns me when you mention:

I have asked woman out on dates myself and after getting their phone number, I can understand the urge to constantly check your phone in case she texts you. However, based on my experience, most women are attracted to men who are career driven and independent. If you are the type of person who needs to/loves to schedule your days in order to achieve your goals, then communicate this with her at the beginning of the relationship. You may say something like, "I enjoy hanging out with you and want your advice on something. I feel like I am most productive and successful when I schedule my days ... (further explanation). At the same time, spending time with you gives me joy, relaxation, a sense of satisfaction that I simply can't get otherwise ... I would love the opportunity to continue dating you, sharing myself with you, and growing with you, while still maintaining some degree of structure in my daily schedule. Can we help each other make this work somehow?"

You can go on to figure out what days/times she is generally free and you can schedules dates during that time. If you simply tell her, I'm only free 5 pm - 6:30 pm, 7 days a week, she will probably dump you right there
However, I presume she will be impressed to see how disciplined/driven you are with your scheduling, but still have compassion and care about her life/responsibilities. I personally would never date a woman who would completely put a halt to her life/goals/dreams just for me. Balance is difficult my friend, but sometimes you will have to reschedule on her especially if she calls you and spontaneously wants to hang out. If you really will "take all the time that's needed for her", then tell her: "Hey. Are you doing anything this weekend? (and if she's free ...) Awesome. I'm really busy this week, but I'm going to front-load my work and finish everything at the office so we can spend the weekend together and I can be fully present with you."

 

Reading your response made me think that the reason many people crave a schedule is because it provides them comfort and makes them feel safe. In order to fall in love, and even date, you have to step out of your comfort zone, and in the beginning you are likely to feel very unsafe. I am not saying routines are all bad, but you need to be willing to take risks to fall in love.