How to practice sex transmutation ?

Decide what will be the object of your energy (instead of Porn)- and give yourself to that. What will receive the energy you give?

I've never heard that phrase before. But I think of it like this- (I'll address men here, since women are a mystery to me!) our hearts have a need to GIVE themselves to something- masturbation is a physical sign and instance of us literally pouring ourselves out into nothing. Once a man finds his mission in life- the thing or the person to whom he gives himself, the need of his heart to give of itself will be met appropriately, and not sought out to the same degree in false ways such as PMO.
Maybe it's your students or patients or your art or your work, the poor or the elderly, or your spouse, or God- but whatever the case once you find the thing to which you can give yourself- you can make the switch.
Realizing it was a spiritual need (to give myself to another) and not just a physical need was important for me. (Not that I'm out of the woods on this stuff yet, but I'm slowly making progress!)

In part, if I can't be disciplined for my own sake, at least maybe I can be disciplined for the sake of another.
So admittedly that doesn't really specifically answer your question of how.
Um.

How- I lift weights. That gives me sexual energy in a sense- the testosterone. Then- I stop thinking of myself. I mean, I think of others- and I got involved with volunteering- that helped a lot. That's kind of what works, and what I'm trying to get at.

Decide what will be the object of your energy (instead of Porn)- and give yourself to that. What will receive the energy you give?
I hope this is helpful and not vague. I'm sort of trying to discover it as I write

 

Intense workouts, not procrastining on anything, talking to people and really paying attention, reading, playing piano. Also I do kundalini yoga and chi gong. Maybe it helps, maybe it doesn't, but it makes me feel great.
It all works, it's a very generalized energy that can be applied to anything, I'm actually mad that I haven't realized I had this extra charge for so long.
I will never again squander it or disrespect it. It can be a valuable resource.

 

Part 2 of Taoist Secrets of Love is probably what you are looking for.

A good discussion on the topic:
http://www.nofap.com/forum/showthread.php?4054-Getting-Started-with-Sexual-Energy-Transmutation/

 

Hello gentlemen! This is an interesting post. When I began reading though, I couldn't help but think about how as humans, they are several components that we all need in order to 'function' in a healthy way. Such components are: spiritual, physical, mental, emotional, and sexual. My personal opinion is that each component needs attention in order for each man to be 'in sync' with himself. My question though, for someone who not only is abstaining from PMO, but sex in general unless it is in the confines of monogamy, (which is non-existent for me right now), how do I fill my sexual meter?

 

I've asked this question a lot of times on a lot of forums/communities. Everytime I got the same kind of answers which goes a little something like this: "Time/energy you invest in pornography, is now going in to other things". Sounds great right? For starters, this might be difficult, which it is. But if you've been here a while, practicing NoFap, failing over and over again, you think to yourself: 'Maybe I didn't practice sexual transmutation well' or 'maybe it didn't understand it fully'.

I can break down this theory for you: sex releases dopamine. Dopamine is considered a happiness hormone, but also a motivation hormone. I've never considered myself depressed when I was watching porn, just mainly unmotivated. Even when I relapse, en moment supreme, I feel so incredibly motivated to do all kinds of things, only to have that feeling fade seconds later.

When you stop watching porn, you will have more motivation to do other things. Thing is, and that's what sexual transmutation is all about for pornography, if porn is in your habit, you need to fill it in with other things otherwise youll fall in to old habits.

If you really want to take it a step further: consider doing 'semen retention' which is basically no P, M, and O at all. It's tough, but as long as you dont fantasize about sex or have any other sexual thoughts, it will definitely benefit your life. I'm feeling the differences already after 8 days!

 

I either watched a video or read it in a book but what I saw or read was basically saying to feel the sexual energy in your sacral chakra or sex organs and then imagine that energy travelling up your body until it spreads to your heart, throat and head. Keep doing it until the sexual energy has left your sex organs. It is a type of meditation ritual so you may need to lie down and close your eyes imagining the energy like a wave.

 

"as long as you dont fantasize about sex or have any other sexual thoughts"

My biggest trouble and torment right now. Although it's almost a month since viewing any actual porn, my mind spins and reels with pornographic thoughts and images. This is my third day w/o M-O and I'm thankful for that, but much discomfort. So, what I've been doing... staying busy, active... exercise: pushups, arm curls, back and glute crunches... practicing playing guitar and singing songs... cleaning and organizing... then finally, trying to meditate, channeling all this sexual urge upward and outward. Good posts so far here, good suggestions I will be trying to use. Thanks!

 

I noticed the mention of Kundalini. I have just recently been thinking about that along the lines of handling this "energy" in a different way. Can you recommend any good sources or books related to Kundalina? Fappist