How to make friends

True, but what are you interested in? People can have both of those qualities but no specific interest, for me that goes a long way. Even with reboot or recovery there's a difference between doing the actions to get results and being interested in it as a subject.

 

Hey Dumbledore, I've felt lonely sometimes too. And,paradoxically, is common along people to feel like that sometimes. I just can say loneliness is a tricky feeling,since you may THINK that you are alone,even while you aren't. First, I think you should change your mindset. Define what you want to do with them. Wanna have fun,complain about life, go to church? It's a pretty big world and also people have similar goals to you. That's my experience. Best luck

 

Well what would be something you'd like to talk about?

 

bravery shmavery.
Social anxiety isn't a condition, it's merely not knowing what to say.
No shame in that, you didn't get a class on it in school.

a) what are you interested in? I don't care if it's socially frowned upon like video games or D&D or some shit. Find a meetup(dot com) for something you're interested in and join. So much of making friends (you're not trying to fuck) is having things in common.

b) what I did when starting to teach myself social skills was to go online, learn a new one-liner joke every day, and told it to everyone I met. Bank tellers, grocery baggers, the girl working at Subway, people sitting beside me in restaurants... you name it. It will get you used to talking to strangers, and used to having people happy to see you.

However, I must warn you, if you find talking to other people on a surface level boring, that's something YOU need to work on. That's your problem, not theirs.

 

Brave. I've never used that word when thinking about talking to people. Because I've never seen it that way. I don't have to be brave when wanting to talk to someone. It's not a "dare" to connect with people. You have to want to do it yourself if you want quality friends. And to WANT to talk to people I think you need to change your perspective. I watched a video where someone talks about there being 2 kinds of people in this situation. The guy and his friend are lining up to get free doughnuts and his friend keeps complaining about how long the line is. Meanwhile the guy is only thinking about the doughnuts. He completely ignores the obstacle which is the line. Sometimes you need a different perspective, looking past all the obstacles and things that can go wrong and just going for the prize you see. He wants the doughnut, it's free and he's only thinking about the value he'll get from it. The prize is a friend who probably wants to talk to people like you who make a move to approach them. Other people probably think like you as well you know. There are a lot of people at my uni who are just as awkward as me.

For patience, you'd only need patience if you become so fixated on making friends or a very large amount of friends that you just want to get it over and done with as you think it's a waste of time. It shouldn't be a task for you to make friends. You have plenty of time to meet new people so don't put a time limit on it and grow impatient. If you're thinking of the "boring" amount of time it takes to make friends with someone then you might not make a good friend to them. Learn to appreciate the process of things. If I was bored with my entire uni degree and only wanted to fast forward to graduation day is it really an experience worth remembering?

 

Looks like we gonna be lonely forever.

 

Hello, for me, the easiest thing to do is start a conversation. Eventually while talking you will find you have something in common and may even ask them to go get coffee or whatever. Starting a conversation can do a lot