How to last longer?

use climax delay condoms.

 

I'm virgin, but I have heard about this topic a lot.
Is it a problem that you don't last long? Can't you just go again 2 minutes later?

 

Man I have always had the same issue, I guess it is considered premature ejaculation, not sure exactly how quick it has to happen to be called that but it is premature in my book. There have only been a couple times when I have actually lasted for what I would consider a decent amount of time and most of those times I was high on opiates, which I don't do anymore. I used to be able to shoot and keep on going non-stop but the last few times I just haven't been able to get back hard like I was the first time. It really sucks but I'm hoping staying clean from fapping/porn will fix it. I would suggest though that after your first climax you please her with your tongue/fingers until you become ready again, maybe have her give you a little assistance getting it back up.

 

What used to work for me was switching to positions where she's on top - generally speaking they provide you with less stimulation and they provide her with more, so win-win! And avoid positions like missionary or generally anything where she's lying down and you're on top - all the blood rushes to the end of your penis and you become a lot more sensitive so you climax quicker.

Although I've been told a few times that in the long run what works best is trying not to worry too much about her pleasure and how long you're going to last, and focusing on your own pleasure and experience - supposedly if you're relaxed and just enjoying it in the moment then over time you will be able to last longer. I've heard that meditation can help a lot with this, as can disciplines like yoga or tai chi - they help you to become more present and to focus on your breathing and your own relaxation and enjoyment rather than worrying about your own performance, and this can help you to slow down and get more stamina. Hope that helps!

 

Really? although it sounds logical. From years of masturbating(still virgin), i have tried different positions to fap like sitting, lying flat on the floor, standing straight up, crunching...and i have lasted the longest while i am actually standing although there are more blood flowing through..lying on the floor and you will realize it goes a little flaccid on the head but otherwise still stays firm. What I have experienced is that the firmer it gets the lesser the sensitivity. So basically i last longer standing because it gets firmer and less sensitive... Not sure about you though ---or maybe it's just me

 

Careful with the climax delay condoms. I used them once and came in 2 minutes. Then after a few weeks of regular sex I used one and couldn't climax. She finished and was like "I'm tired now and I'm getting dry." I was tired too so I took it off and went to sleep. I was hard but couldn't feel a thing. Moral of the story is you just have to get used to sex. It's all about brain development. After PMO you train yourself to go for yours. Now you have to rewire yourself to go for hers. After your brain circuitry adjusts, you will be fine. Until then, it comes when it comes. Just roll with it, don't take yourself to seriously, and both of you can still have fun and enjoy intimacy.

 

Glad to see this topic on here. I used to masturbate a few times a week (2-3) and would last pretty long having sex with my wife. Due to having opposing work schedules we only really have an opportunity for sex on the weekends, and now with my NoFap efforts that means I go 5-6 days between sexual sessions.

As a result, I've lasted only a few minutes the last handful of times we've had sex, and my recovery period has been pretty long. It's certainly better then the ED I had before from the death grip, but still wish I could last longer for both her and my own sakes.

We're talking about having a baby so not sure the condoms are an option for me, though I guess this current "problem" I'm having is more conducive to getting her pregnant, so there's that

Any other tips out there? I might give other positions a shot as her favorite is missionary but it sounds like that might be working against me.

 

I think two minutes later might be a bit difficult, but from what I've heard, one of the benefits of doing a reboot is the ability to "go" twice when having sex with a real person. As another poster suggested, it could be a good idea to keep your girlfriend happy with your tongue or fingers until you're ready for another 'go'.