How to find people who will make you love yourself

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by DaddyFatSac, Dec 10, 2018.

  1. DaddyFatSac

    DaddyFatSac Fapstronaut

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    I’m currently a senior in high school and with that comes a lot of friends. Out of all the people I call friend, none of them make me feel valued. I feel as though I could disappear from existence and nobody would look for me except my family. I want to find those friends that pick you up when your down, encourage you to chase your goals, and fall in love with yourself. Unfortunately, I haven’t found someone like that. I’m an extroverted person. I don’t enjoy being alone the entire weekend but all my friends do is drink and smoke. It’s fun in the short term but at the end of the night I crave more. I know that there’s more to life than that dopamine rush that satisfies you for a short time. That’s why I got rid of PMO. Lack of real friends has motivated me to looking forward to college in hopes of finding people that can make me feel alive. My question is where do I find them? How do I build that connection? It’s so hard to do when you’re confined to a small town with not many options.
     
  2. My brother,

    I am going to share with you some hard truths about life and the human condition. Now don't think that this means you should not have hope... there is always HOPE!

    You and I share extroversion as a part of our personality. So I can understand that it is hard to turn your gaze in a direction other than outward. In truth, you can run to the four corners of this earth and back, if you are not able to find internal happiness and satisfaction, you will not find it otherwise.

    I have spent years trying to make myself happy with things, other people, PMO and a lot more sexual crap than you can imagine... big jobs, and big bucks... none of it will ever make you happy... I think you have already found that truth in terms of social life... its all the same.

    Now for the HOPE part... And here is where it gets good for you. You are here, talking about what is real! you are already able to reason that drinking and drugs are not going to make you happy, neither with sex or porn... or your social life. Ask yourself this, how much self respect will you gain once you have totally kicked this habit which is addictive and denigrating? You will not only gain self respect, but self control... you know all the rest.

    Once you have this, you will have everything you need to see truth and things which are real for what they are, real friends, and real relationships. And hear is more hope for you... If you become this man, of self control and confidence, one who respects himself, you will attract good people to you... and you will have something positive to offer that relationship.

    I am proud of you brother... Proud you are here and intelligent enough to see the hollow things in life, keep working on yourself and you will find what you are looking for! You need someone to vent to or ask advice of... PM me!
     
  3. DaddyFatSac

    DaddyFatSac Fapstronaut

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    That’s increbible advice, man. Best response I’ve received. My ultimate goal of ridding lust and envy from my life is to become a better man and enjoy the real pleasures of life rather than the short term pleasures. I joined this community to connect with others that have the same goals and it’s great to know I’m not alone on this spiritual journey. Thanks again, I look forward to staying in touch
     
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  4. Anytime! I we all need support, cannot walk this life alone.
     

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