How to disassociate my brain?

I think that researching the effects of porn and fantasy and then abstaining from them will help.

The whole premise of nofap is to reboot.

While my mind and body still "enjoy" P and mental fantasy, I know logically and through reason what porn and fantasy do to my brain. Through no PM (which usually involves controlling our fantasies and such thoughts) our brains can become re-wired.

 

Kriss try relying on a higher power.

 

My good friend, the "good feeling" you feel when you think of fetish is actually your dopamine surge.

Pavlov's experiment is closely associated with the power of habit, We were accustomed to habit that is doing us no good. Break the habit loop.

How? Do your reboot, Catch yourself when you engage in fantasising and channel your attention back to reality, when you repeat this, the power of fetish stuffs over you reduces to a great extent

Good luck

 

Many people in the addiction recovery community rely on a "higher power" to overcome their addiction. THe idae is you have to come to a point where you accept you cannot overcome the addiction on your own. You have to open up to the possibility of a higher power that will enable you to overcome the addiction.

 

Exactly .

 

Maybe you need to find something that turns you off or makes you feel something else. If I'm surfing porn n I see something I don't like(some other peoples fetish) It's make me stagger n I gotta get it out of my mind.

Maybe a smell?

 

Remember sexual thoughts are normal, it is in your biology. There is no need to link pain to them. Do you need to think about them however? No.

The solution for this problem is not getting rid of the good feelings. It is distancing yourself from your thoughts. Remembering that YOU are not your thoughts. Really the inner critic can give you a lot of thoughts. It can come up with all sorts of stuff.
So what do you need to do when you have a sexual thoughts? Don't fight it, not surrender to it. Just sit with en focus on your breath. This way you won't supress your thoughts.

Sigmund freud said whatever we supress will lead an underground live. So not supressing is the solution. Accept that the thoughts is there and focus back on the breath. The breath is the key to all of this.

Also if you link pain to your sexual thoughts you will hurt your self-esteem whenever you think about them. This is the inner critic will attacking you, because you did something "wrong".

Btw the goal of nofap is not to get rid of your sex drive. Because that is what you will do when you try to dissociate from that feeling. The goal of nofap is to get rid of the addiction.

But if you really want to dissociate that feeling from your thoughts I would recommend reading "Tony Robbins - Awaken The Giant Within." There you will find your solution. However like I said before it is not recommend to link pain to the thoughts. This can cause in your later life.

Anyway keep researching and thinking of different kind of stuff. This is how we come up with new ideas.
Keep up the good work!
Thomas