How Pornography affects brain

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by MotivationWarrior, Jun 14, 2019.

Have you ever felt that porn is sumilar to life?

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  1. Yes

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  2. No

    73.3%
  1. MotivationWarrior

    MotivationWarrior Fapstronaut

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    Hello everyone! I am new to this community and I would like to share my thoughts with you. From my point of view, watching porn constantly or for some periods of time makes you believe that porn is sumilar to real life and whatever you see you will take it for granted. Because pornography, on some of it's fields promotes sexual violence between the participants and we don't realize it sometimes, fools our brain and we think that whatever happens in porn, happens in real life as a result to do creepy stuff in case of a sexual relationship and even hurt our partner because our mind will recall the porn scenes that we have seen. If I am wrong to something correct me!
     
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  2. EquitableMove

    EquitableMove Fapstronaut

    Yes, it makes you have unrealistic fantasies for the SO you have. For instance have you ever looked up something that was very niche and only found a couple of videos for it? Every time you try to find another the same videos keep coming up? That is because only a couple of people out of all the entire porn actors out there decided they would do such thing. Because we watch it multiple times we think most people will do it and they are just quiet about it. In reality most girls do not and will not do such things.
     
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  3. MotivationWarrior

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    Yeah you are right. It has the normal stuff too but it has the violent ones too, and I believe that most of the time we get bored of the normal stuff and we watch as much as we can from the violent stuff which rises our adrenaline. We take the violent for granted by watching them too much and the normal for something very boring.
     
  4. EquitableMove

    EquitableMove Fapstronaut

    Yeah the violent stuff is definitely a tougher form and will destroy your outlook on sex and women in general. It's mostly fake or roleplayed on the www but even the fake stuff does the same thing.
     
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  5. Resilience89

    Resilience89 Fapstronaut

    I think porn degrades your quality of thinking and gets you demotivated in life.

    Think about how many years we got and how many days we end up spending on sleep and how many years we have already spent on porn and masturbation. Porn sites might be free but we are wasting our most important commodity time. when you make time for one thing , it comes from somewhere else - career growth, trying something new, talking to your friends , connecting with parents, wife, girlfriend.
     
  6. Ronila

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    You are not fooled by watching porn. The reason people "copy" and keep these violent behaviors is because violence is actually very stimulating and arousing, combined with sexual stimulation, violence provides surge of adrenaline among other things and gives a bigger high. Negative outcome is that as you add more intense stimulation in to sex all the time, sensitivity to pleasure decreases and person feels unsatisfied, and wants more and to do that, intensity has to go up, soon enough normal sex is no longer satisfying - due to simple decrease in sensitivity so these "new" violent behaviors simply represent person with alcohol problem going from 3 beers a day to vodka bottle a day.
    Core issue with all addictive behaviors is that person seeks a high and not the activity itself. Individual feels horny and instead of just having sex or masturbating to address the need - he/she goes after the pleasure and edges for hours - specifically to enjoy the pleasure.
     
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  7. MotivationWarrior

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    Yeah for obvious reasons we want to do the violent stuff for adrenaline and because we find it more satysfying. But we will end up hurting our partner or the partner might hurt us if they are used to these stuff. Probably porn actors will have physical problems with their genitals because of these acts and even if you ask them they will tell you not to do it.
     
  8. Ronila

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    Sex is not cuddling, sex is built on aggression and aggressive behaviors are natural for humans. This is exactly why pain threshold is reduced by allot during sexual arousal.
    There is nothing wrong with some degree of aggression in sexual encounters, marks and light bruises are common and normal but as long as this is fine with both partners it facilitates the experience of sex.
    Issue we are discussing is exhibiting these behaviors intentionally for the sole purpose of intensifying pleasure, winch is what gets people in to trouble.
    There is a big difference between natural aggression during sex for the purpose of enjoying sex and calculated aggression to increase pleasure. They are as different as having a beer with friends to relax or having few beers to feel good.
     
  9. MotivationWarrior

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    Yeah it's obvious, during sex we will have the moments that will leave marks but if no one is in pain it's okay. But we have those moments when the one doesn't mind hurting the other half to pleasure himself or herself. Right?
     
  10. Ronila

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    I am not sure where we are going with this.
    People hurt each other during sex - its part of life. Mostly because we are more animal than human when having sex, logic, reasoning, willpower - everything is suppressed
    I think what you are trying to point out is that there is a line where aggression becomes dangerous and I agree with that. My definition for when that happens is in the original post but I will define it more here.

    In my mind distinction comes from engagement in the activity, normal humans get "engaged" in sex and with suppression on logic, reasoning, willpower and inhibitions they just experience sex witch includes some level of natural aggression.
    If person has distorted sexual response and seeks highly aggressive and potentially painful/harmful interaction with his/her partner, that means he/she does not get sexually engaged by normal sexual behaviors and that means he/she seeks them to get engaged and stay engaged. So these are sort of planned extra ritualistic things to get this type of person in to state so he/she could enjoy sex.
    In other words they learn extra behaviors to help them feel pleasure and those are likely to be painful and cause injuries.

    My point is that humans with fairly normal sexual repose, get enough kick out of sex with minimal to low level of aggression and that means injuries are rare.
    People that use aggression to becomes aroused in the first place, have to use more aggression for same result so injuries are more likely.
     
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  11. MotivationWarrior

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    Alright, thank you for your time!
     
  12. Sadgirl

    Sadgirl Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

    "Free" porn cost me my marriage.
     
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