How many wives...

I think this is a slightly different question. I've sort of daydreamed that I suppose, but not out of anger. More of a hypothetical fantasy where I want to daydream about being with someone else, but I would never cheat on my spouse, so I sort of pretend, in my mind, that he died.

But I think that's different than what you're asking. I've definitely never thought that out of anger. But I can maybe see why someone might if they are 100% against divorce. That might feel like the only option.

 

I try real hard to respect the religious views of others as it impacts recovery. This one, I do admit I have a bias against as I feel like it disproportionately affects women. All that aside though, gotta say that believing divorce is morally worse than wishing someone else dead is whacked.

Peace,
-Quinn

 

This conversation has reminded me of something that happened after my Father passed away this year.

The Saturday after he passed I got the following out of two fortune cookies in this order too...

"The smart thing is to prepare for the unexpected."

"We would often be sorry if our wishes came true."

It's kind of off topic but also on topic because of the context of this conversation. Basically be careful what you wish for you may just get it.

I hope this person you are speaking about is able to work though the challenges her and her husband are facing. I can only imagine the pain she must be experiencing to make a comment like that. No one deserves that much pain and suffering.

 

I have thought... it might have been easier if he died because the choice would be made, he'd be dead... but it's a sad thought.. but yes, I have thought that.

 

I just had a fantasy last night when we were at a restaurant that I poured our water jar over his head in a fancy restaurant...and walked out calmly. (I didn't do it but I laughed at myself for thinking it).

 

I have told my husband that it would have been easier for me if he would have died... I don't want him to die, I just feel that THAT pain would be easier to deal with... although I'm not sure that is the case. I'd have been absolutely heartbroken before Dday, but honestly, I'd be less heartbroken if he died now because I wouldn't have to deal with the constant thoughts of "is he going to betray me again???" that's horrible to admit, I know. Again- I don't wish he would die. I really do love him, he just has hurt me so much. I'm very honest with my husband. He's on noFap and reads my stuff.

The thoughts that I have is that my death would be easier... if I died. But I know that's just pain talking too and even though I have a bit of a death wish, I could not do that to my children.