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Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Queenie%Bee, Jan 12, 2018.

  1. Queenie%Bee

    Queenie%Bee Fapstronaut

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    So this is for anyone no PM (O with spouse ) for over 6 months . Or the SO How many times a week do you have sex and how many times do you actually initiate . I know age may play a factor . I’m just really curious . The reason I’m asking is , as I’m feeling safer , PIED gone , less PE issues , I’m finding MY libido is back like a fricken teenager dammit . I KNOW a very personal question but shit , the stuff I read on here doesn’t come close to this question haha
     
  2. Queen_Of_Hearts_13

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    Well, prior to giving birth six weeks ago we had sex 3-5 times a week before I hit 9 months pregnant. Non-pregnant (once I am cleared to have sex) we usually are around 3-5 times in a week, sometimes higher and then some weeks maybe 2 times. I seem to desire sex more than my husband, but I don't initiate. Especially after the most recent lie 4 weeks ago, I really don't initiate. Me kissing him is a big deal since I don't reach out for sexual affection anymore. So he initiates it all at this point. We are over a year and a half past DDay and he is over a year and a half PMO free. I am sure with trust and consistency I will slowly be able to initiate later on.
     
  3. WantsToBelieve

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    My SO is currently at 72 days no P, only 17 days no M.
    Before all this, we were 'doing it' probably 3-4 times a week. Maybe more on a good week.
    He never dealt with PIED, or PE before all this.
    PE is now a problem, but no PIED. Without M he doesn't last long.

    As far as libido is concerned, his is still as high as ever.
    Mine, not so much. But yes, I do initiate, maybe half the time on a good week.
    I do worry that sometimes it's out of obligation. I'm working on that.
    We still 'do it' as much as we did before. But he's not M in between.

    I hope I can get to where you are. Once I can trust again.
    I'm so happy for you!
     
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  4. Queenie%Bee

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    This is exactly why I asked ! He’s 44 so not sure if that factors in or this is his norm when not on P , I think I was expecting more sex after a year of no PMO , obv we know sex is NOT just about sex . Which is why I’m craving I think . But im finding myself the initiator now , 2 xs a week , if I don’t it’s once a week . And it’s crazy good when we do , so not sure why he doesn’t initiate . ( in the past he did , but def think that was P fueled ;()
     
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  5. phuck-porn!

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    there was a thread on this about 6,7 months ago....
    @Kenzi ??
     
  6. Queenie%Bee

    Queenie%Bee Fapstronaut

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    I wasn’t here ! Unfortunately! Wish I came on DDAY !!
     
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  7. Kenzi

    Kenzi Fapstronaut

    Ooh.... Um, I can look.. Yes there was.
    @GG2002 would know the title
     
  8. Kenzi

    Kenzi Fapstronaut

    @Qnb42078 did that help?
    Or would you rather people just answer your question directly here?
     
  9. phuck-porn!

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  10. Queenie%Bee

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    Maybe both! Maybe back then someone posting wasn’t into 6 month ? Make sense ? I don’t see the other thread ?
     
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  11. Queenie%Bee

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  12. Queenie%Bee

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    Got it it just was out of sequence;)
     
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    We have sex every 3 days. It hasn’t increased since he stopped PM. We are just too tense. I’m hoping once we become less tense it’ll be more.
     
  15. EyesWideOpen

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    We are in our 40s and have sex 3 or 4 times a week. It was more like 5 or 6 until he started his new job where he has to get up crazy early.

    Edited to add that we both initiate equally, I'd say. I'd initiate every night if it wasn't for his stupid early hours. Hmph.
     
    Last edited: Jan 12, 2018
  16. Hopefulgirl

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    I have always been the initiator in our relationship. My PA partner is 42 and has always worked out of town for 2-8 weeks at a time. Our sexual relationship has always been.....erratic. sometimes months without, sometimes 2x a day for a week. Prior to disclosure we had S 2 times in 2 years :( . The first 5 months after disclosure we had sex almost every day he was home (approx 4 times in 5 days). Now it is about 2 times in 5 days.
     
  17. Once a week while I was addicted. Up to about twice a week now. I desire it more than she does but also our daily schedules arent completely in sync - often, once I'm back from the gym and having dinner, she's thinking about hitting the hay. So 2x per week is fine.
     
  18. Queenie%Bee

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    Sounds familiar! He gets up at 4:30a works then gym and out cold at 9 on couch lol doesn’t leave much opportunity. I’ll just keep initiating
     
  19. kropo82

    kropo82 Fapstronaut

    A couple of times a week, but I think that will probably settle down to once or twice every two weeks. It was probably about once or twice a month when I was doing porn, but got much worse when I was struggling to give up before I found NoFap. We're in our early fifties, I think age does make a difference. As to who initiates that is hard to tell. I think we both do a bit of testing the waters to see how our kisses are responded to so we typical go for it if we find we're both initiating, so to speak.
     
  20. TryingHard2Change

    TryingHard2Change Distinguished Fapstronaut

    I appreciate this thread and everyone sharing these details.
     

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