There's a trend on here for porn addiction to be associated with men or women who never or rarely have any real sex -- but how true is this really? I know age might be an important factor here, but I can't think of a way to link results to age without making making the results public -- so this is just a vague snapshot rather than anything scientific. Are porn addicts all incels, are they more promiscuous, or is there really no rule?
There was a topic a while ago about this and the results were either 0, 1-5 or something then there were the sex addicts with 20+ I sadly had sex with way too many women, but most of them were escorts. I obviously stopped doing that years ago cause it's not ok.
For me the number is high -- but I'm now middle-aged and it hasn't always been that way. I do think the high numbers have played a big part in desensitising me to authentic connections. However, when I was a young man the numbers were low because I was shy -- I didn't have access to porn in the way we do now. It was still definitely a thing; I just don't know whether it affected my confidence or not. I became more confident in my twenties, but the real game changer for me was when Internet dating came along and I didn't need to approach women in the same way -- I'd have dating tabs and porn tabs all open at the same time, jumping between the two like I was shopping for candy!
i have never had sex and im 23, about to be 24. i was always told im ugly and i will die a virgin and women's rejection confirms that
The chances are its a self-confidence issue more than a physical issue -- you may not be the best looking dude around (I have no idea) but I promise you if you work on your personality and the energy you give out, then in time you will attract someone. Plenty of "ugly" dudes get laid.
bullshit. women only care about looks. even if you are "ugly" you can be certain the girl liked your looks
I constnatly see only evidence that supports this. literally its only the best looking dudes i see with girls, me and lot of others are hopeless virgins
Only three girls and was about to with two other ones though I've had the chance with at least four more over the years (one of wich was still a nonage while I was already 18-19 but didn't wanna abuse her). One of the main reasons is that it took me a lot of time to realize the slight signals that a girl will send you to show she's attracted to you, in spite of which I don't feel regretful by any means as all of those sexual encounters would have been conditioned by my addiction and therefore neither them or I would have enjoyed it, plus I believe that in those conditions I'd try to make it out like it was a porn scene, so...
That's what I used to think when being younger as well but today, I consider such a statement as baloney. One thing you got to keep in mind is that women's brains are wired such that they are not as visually stimulated as men when being attracted to the opposite sex. In other words, looks don't matter as much to women as the other way around. As long as you look somewhat healthy, proper and well-groomed, your looks won't be an impediment to finding a woman, only the negative thoughts in your mind will. It has more to do with your confidence, energy, self-esteem, and mindset than anything else. "As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he"
Now now! i am sure you are a beautiful human being. Personally, i think its wonderful how you have managed to keep yourself sexually reserved and not wagged your willy about too much at your age. Im sure your sexual fidelity will enlighten your first ever hook up. It will make her feel special, no doubt! One little woman in the corner our big world rejecting you does not mean anything, my friend. Look at rejection is a blunt teacher who endoctrinates patience and humility!
you are an idiot. Easily the most infuriating person I’ve seen on this forum. I hope to god you are a troll cause if not you have a personality disorder and need help.
i had a vision of what i wanted to be and i sticked to it doing nofap wont enlighten anything. im too old for this to happen. also, women hate virgins.
Your rejection will probably be because of your self-esteem and borderline misogyny -- your victim-like posts are evidence of this. Women can be shallow, but there are many angles to "shallow" that don't include looks - these could be social status, financial capability, physical strength, passion, purpose, and so on --- they won't love you for your personality if your identity is based on cynicism.
It’s not what you think. This guy is a tool. Read some of his other posts. Sees the world and women in a twisted, sad and misguided way.