Hi, Completely new to this forum, and glad it exists. Before last night I was completely unaware of the extent to which pornography can affect sexual health and break relationships. I’m in desperate need of some serious advice and encouragement from those of you who are further down the road of helping their porn addict significant other. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and have known that he’s had an issue with porn. His libido rarely matches mine, and sometimes he struggles to stay hard (I’m assuming all relating to his addiction). At the start everything was great - we were both each other’s first sexual partner so it’s only natural that things were going to be frantically passionate at the start. That has well teetered off and we’ve had open conversations along the way about his libido and how perhaps cutting out porn could help him to regain his libido. He promised me around a month or two ago he would stop. Together, we were looking through his photos (we do that sometimes, to laugh at goofy pictures we take of eachother). I came across a video, which he played off at the start. I realised it was weird and he got very VERY emotional. I pressed and it was that’s he had hidden his phone and tried to take a video of us having sex without my consent. I left the room during the video (before anything happened) and he turned it off, ultimately deciding against it. I am very open to anything sexually, and have previously once asked if we could take videos just mucking around and quickly deleted them. We did that and he wasn’t into it - why now? Why without my consent? I asked if it had anything to do with me not consenting? Whether that turned him on? I feel completely violated and betrayed. He admitted he has a serious porn addiction and that withdrawing has been hard. I don’t know whether I should stay or go. He is a very beautiful person who I love deeply. I just don’t know where the line should be drawn or the likelihood of him recovering. Please offer some wisdom! I said to him that I will stay with him and that we will get through it, together as a couple. I’m worried about his mental health and the effect breaking up will have on him (if needed). But I’m also worried I’m playing off something very serious with the video and I’m setting myself up to be sexually unfulfilled forever. I want to be with him, I love him... what should I do?