How do you define an addiction?

You should go out, travel or participate in social activities

 

Continuing to do something despite negative consequences is addiction.

 

For years I thought it was just a bad habit. It's an addiction. You only realize it when you try to quit.

 

Addiction is the inability of a person to regulate hismself in doing something which he knows will cause harm to one's self or the people around him if done in excess.

 

@Fractured Mindset

To quantify how much is "too much" depends on each of our circumstances. For me, too much is when I let my addiction to porn take over my life and the things that I should be doing instead.

I went through the same things as you. I'd binge on porn, feel like shit and completely hopeless, hurt my wife emotionally when I get discovered, I would decide to quit. I'd get rid of all the porn I have but then I'd get a relapse and the cycle repeats itself.

I only recently realized that I need to take control of my life back from the monster inside me. And that by realizing where my weakness lies, is only when I can try and become stronger. By using what I know about me to catch myself when I begin to go down that dark path, I can better avoid getting into trouble again.

My weakness was my impulsiveness, I was quick to decide on things I wanted to do and before I knew it, I was neck deep into porn once more. Now, I am trying to go without PM and whenever I get the urge to watch porn, or when I encounter triggers around me, I just take a moment to think about where I am now, and how much improvements have happened to my life since I decided to stop watching porn. That helps me each day to take control back to my life.

You too can take control of your decisions. Just be mindful of your actions, and think before you do something you just don't know yet might cause you regret down the line.

 

In my humble opinioin: only something that you can hardly control.
In theory, you could take some really dangerous drugs, but if you are able to just not take them, you are not addicted. There are a few people who can do this, don't try to find out if you are one of those.