How do I talk to this girl?

My first tip is to not overthink about it at all, don't overthink about how pretty she is and how anxious you are, because it will only make you more nervous. Just let it flow naturally. Do it when you haven't planned to do it, just like if you were jumping from a high cliff to the water, once you are in mid air there's no going back, once you've asked her about something the conversation has started.

I don't think it's very creepy that you say that you have seen her in school, actually it's a good way to start a conversation that can lead to asking about what does she study and other things. A less creepy way to start the conversation could be something like: "Hey, do you go to xxxxx college? I think I've seen you there."

Just a few lines the first time, don't push yourself too much. Then the next days you can ask her about how is her day going and simple things just to build confidence talking to her. Eventually the conversations will grow longer and deeper once you get to know each other.

 

Quit over-analyzing and just ask her out on a date.

 

This. Just do it. Rip off that band-aid, man. It's been a year. Shit or get off the pot.

 

You'll be fine. Keep at NoFap and sooner or later you'll be forced to get some closure. It'll bother you so much that you just want to get it over with. It'll will be like a shackle chained to an iron ball has lifted. Wish you the best.

 

Dude, 10 men hit on her every day. You have little chance of having sex with her. Also, it could spoil your gym experience. Also, if she liked you she would have hinted that.

So, if you really want to hit on her (without many chances seems kind of pointless) try to do it in an indirect manner. Like ask some innocent question and see if she is willing to prolong the conversation.

 

Women hate neediness, dude. When you're ready to get this girl you won't need our advice. But I can tell you that's a LOOONG way off...

 

I feel you buddy, but remember that being uncomfortable is always a nice thing to do

 

If you keep wasting time, a Chad will snatch her up right away.

 

Well to start the convo you can ask her how an exercise works or a machine

 

Pull the trigger. Next time you see her just strike up a conversation about something trivial by asking how her day is going and see her level of enthusiasm from that. If she's open to it, great. If not, her interest level in you isn't that high. Although if you've known each other for a year, does she know you like her? Have you said so explicitly? Good luck.

 

You don't even know her.

You're the type of guy that places every woman you're attracted to above himself. So here you are asking for "mindset tricks" to try and close the gap between you and this SPECIAL stranger that you're idolizing. You need some magical skills and crazy motivation to use every time there's an attractive woman.

Your goal shouldn't be to gain immature and insecure TRICKS that little boys use... your goal should be to become a mature and secure adult that follows his desires without attaching your self worth to a specific outcome you're obsessing about.

Start asking the right questions.

Throwing away your self worth for a person you barely even know............................ *shakes head in dissapointment*

 

I've been there. You just gotta say fuck it. "Hey what's your name? You seem cool. We should go out sometime." You only live once and got nothing to lose.

 

There's an exercise that I did a couple of years ago that might help you out. Once a day, pick out a random girl, and give her a compliment. Not for the purpose of it leading to anything, but there's something intimidating about telling a girl that she's attractive or attempting to flirt with her. And honestly (if you're not creepy while you're doing it), it can make someone's day to hear something like that.

After a few days of this, see if the idea of talking to her is a little less daunting.

 

Im happy for you, people like you gives me hope.

 

If you engage with intent to make her yours you will fail.

If you engage with intent to make a new friend you MIGHT fail.

If you fail to make a new friend she wouldn’t be a good friend. If she wouldn’t be a good friend would she be a good partner?

 

This is not true. There are many guys who intent to make her yours and succeed. Maybe for us it is true as we lack experience.

 

Should probably wait until he knows if she’s interested before getting engaged.