How do I know the diff between porn fantasy and real desire?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Shy_1990, Apr 3, 2019.

  1. Shy_1990

    Shy_1990 Fapstronaut

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    So during my porn addiction, my main interest was in all things bondage, forced orgasms ect. At first i told myself I was really into that stuff and thats why I liked the porn but later I thought maybe I enjoyed it because of the porn.

    So when I am further along in my reboot journey, how do I know what is a porn induced fantasy and what is something I genuinely want to do with a real woman?
     
  2. RedeemedIowan

    RedeemedIowan Fapstronaut

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    I think chances are somewhat slim that you would be that into bondage stuff if you had never seen porn in your life
     
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  3. Infrasapiens

    Infrasapiens Fapstronaut

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    Good question. I do not know what I am allowed to like or even think about anymore.
     
  4. Reborn16

    Reborn16 Fapstronaut

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    Personally, I've kept the fetish stuff out of my relapses for the last 6 months or so. And this has helped, even though I'm yet to get a few months clean.

    So yes, I have had many relapses and binges too. But it was always with vanilla stuff. And I can say that I am genuinely not interested in some of the things I was routinely watching before.

    Other things are more natural and have had interest for millennia. Foot fetish is probably the most common one that probably won't change with or without porn (and I for one don't mind that lol).
     
  5. ZenAF

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    It's quite simple really. If you still feel curious and excited about doing something specific with a real woman after you didn't use porn for a couple month there's a good chance that the feeling is genuine. And so you can try it out and then you'll know for sure whether you like it or not. What's the worst that can happen? ;)
    Sad downside of this forum. That war mentality against the very notion of naughty thoughts. You're allowed to like what you like, you feel yourself whether something you like is evil or just naughty. For example if you were fantasizing about making women choke with your dick and slapping them in the face, you know on some level that that's wrong. But then there are harmless things like being into feet or anal or something like that. So don't let the forum disorient you, all you come here for is to get rid of a porn addiction, not for them to tell you what you can and can not like.
     
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  6. I can tell that on the level of depth I am hooked I like things that i don’t like on lesser depth of hooked. I used to like when super drowned in desire edging sessions Bdsm bondage rough sex and femdom. I liked whipping and real rough stiff when a girl whipped a guy or the other way around. I don’t have this ambition the better I am doing. I have more ambition and desire for just a beautiful form being sexy and attractive which doesn’t do when I am deeper in it. So I suggest to work yourself out more and find thenwhat your desires are.
     
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