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How do I cope with being unattractive?

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Bluffy, Aug 21, 2015.

  1. Dr.NoFap

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    Usually ugly people in Junior High and High school become good-looking when they become adults. 90% of the ugly people I went to Junior and high school are now good looking and successful.
     
  2. Bluffy

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    but i am ugly and i think i am almost done eith puberty.. i have facial hair and body hair...
     
  3. JustADude

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    The world is full of ugly (disproportionate facial features, odd body shapes, etc.) people who are considered extremely attractive due to their confidence. My friend, you need to learn to love yourself and carry yourself with confidence.

    Gerard Depardieu (assymetric face)
    Sylvestor Stalline (f'd up nose)
    Russel Brand (Ugly and guant IMO)
    Tony Robbins
    Frank Sinatra (Short man syndrome)
    Gandhi (He was da man!)

    EDIT: I got distracted and didn't get to finish my post, here is the rest.

    I could easily make this list 100 different people. All of these people do NOT have the perfect bodies and faces. Yet, all of them are considered attractive by a decent percentage of the population. Some people, embrace their oddities and find that others like them more for their ability to embrace the parts of themselves that other people would consider flaws.

    At your age, yourself and most of your classmates are all trying to find themselves. Even the best looking guys (by societies standards) are likely having their own self image issues.
     
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  4. Eric'sBlue

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    Well, the first thing you can do is Not compensate by developing a massive narcissistic inflated ego - which I see many so called "unnattractive" people do.. .and it is disgusting. So - don't do that.

    The second thing is: take a hard look at yourself and evaluate yourself realistically - as - you - are. I know, this is hard. But do it nonetheless. You may find that you are not that unattractive.

    The last thing is to work on yourself. None of us are perfect. I'm losing my hair, I hate that but - there's not much I can do about that. Highlight your attributes, and minimize your flaws.

    Hope that helps.
     
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  5. Dr.NoFap

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    I wasn't talking about puberty. When you get older, your looks change, your lifestyle change, the way you take care of yourself changes. Ugly people in Junior High and High School pay close attention to their looks so they change it for the better. This is why they become more attractive in the future.
     
  6. IGY

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    I find this highly implausible, Can you give examples? Take it from an ugly, middle aged duck that I have vacillate from low self-esteem to ferocious self-hatred. o_O
     
  7. Bluffy

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    i will do this.
     
  8. I got a few tips about the looks and stuff. Bear in mind that these are from my own experience and some may be more subjective than other.

    Age: You're only 16 and still in the very early process of developing. Your body and facial feature will grow more masculine as you developed in the years ahead. Sharper edges, growing facial hair and the overall structure will evolve, making you more attractive than you think to the opposite sex naturally. For most people acne disappears with age too.

    Diet: Boycotting toxic from your body, will have an significant effect on your mood, body and acne. Reducing McDonald's, Burger King, KFC, fatty, oily, GMO, freeze and microwaved food. Drinking at least 5 glass of water a day - This may even make the dark circles and other imperfections on your face fade slowly.

    Exercise: If you're not the type of guy who wants to play on no sports team, like soccer or baseball, then jogging, bicycling or even walking long distances is a good idea, making the blood flow and the fresh air will refresh you.

    Medical: If you're acne still doesn't disappear, even when eating pasta and salad the whole month, try Tetracycline/Doxycline with an appointment from your doctor. This is pretty temporary for the most and if you want to completely kill your acne, while accepting the risk factors, request for an Accutane (Isotrentinoin) cure. This should in no way be done without the regular blood tests and doctors permission, and may give you very dangerous or even fatal side effects. Do this only as a last resort.

    NoFap: With this, you'll discover a whole new way of life, understanding and the power you hold. You will feel responsible and be able to uphold that responsibility with integrity as you go up in rank. Women will get very attracted to you, whether it be your fresh looks, your attitude, your awareness, your self-esteem, your being etc. Nofap will also help you stay driven and make your motivation even stronger to the point, where you will become indestructible. You will feel appreciated and deserving by yourself.

    Stay strong and remember, your enemies are the drugs that were given to you, in form of pills, magazines, addictive images on digital screens to keep you passive and 'comfortable' miserably hidden in your cave. Discover your true power and be free.
     
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  9. wildwood

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    Hey guys how about beauty is SUBJECTIVE and IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER. What I find attractive could be "ugly" or unattractive to you. NO IS ONE UGLY HERE. Ugh. Just be healthy.
     
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  10. Zerg Prosecutor

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    Really?
    Are you willing to take a bet? If I make two profiles on every single dating site on the Internet that you can think of and one will display a picture of a guy who is generally considered attractive by women and the other account will display a guy who is not generally found attractive by women with the exact same description the only difference is the picture...who do you think is going to have the most request? Do you really think that the unattractive guy can compete with the attractive one?

    Spoiler: This experiment has been done thousand of times...the results are in the best case "depressive" and this is if you want to be positive about it.

    "SUBJECTIVE and IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER. What I find attractive could be "ugly" or unattractive to you. "
    One problem with this...what you say is true but is also meaningless because you need a large pool of people to vote between multiple guys to be able to draw the conclusion that beauty is that subjective as you think...A simple thought experiment if I take Frank Ribery and David Beckham and ask 1000 women to choose who is more attractive, how do you think that poll will look like? Do you think it will come out roughly equal? Or do you think it will come like 3%Ribery - 97% Beckham?
     
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  11. wildwood

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    I have no idea what you look like, I can't judge you. I don't find Beckham attractive at all. Nor do I many "celebrities" or athletes. Personality is key, it's how I find people sexually attractive. I mix them together. Dating sites aren't that great it's only interest based on looks. My boyfriend and I weren't attracted to each other at all at first, we were best friends. It grew into a relationship. Why would you want to date someone who's THAT shallow. No one here is completely hideous. There's always something attractive on/in someone. My boyfriend thinks he's completely hideous, I find his flaws charming and very attractive. But hey whatever makes you feel better.
     
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  12. wildwood

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    I THINK EVERYONE HERE IS A HOT TAMALE. Boom.
     
  13. Zerg Prosecutor

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    @wildwood
    I dont find Beckham that attractive either but my point was that there really is such a thing as objective ways to quantify beauty...but you see the question was not wheter you find Beckham hot or not, I also gave you Frank Ribery to compare him with, you dont need to actually find one of those 2 attractive or unatractive but you can make a comparison.

    And I never said that there will be perfect scores for Beckham because indeed people's tastes differ but not to such a large degree that everyone has equal chances, and it doesnt need to be shallow the truth of the marrer is that a guy with both looks and personality will crush a guy with personality and no looks anytime.

    I myself quite insecure about my looks and this doesn't mean that I dont work on my personality but I could become the smartest, the wisest man in the world and would still feel like I am not enough, the same applies with having looks but no personality, that would be equally bad for me. If I dont have both, I might as well have none.
     
  14. wildwood

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    Well different people different tastes. Everyone has different personalities, different looks, I just prefer to not judge.
     
  15. Zerg Prosecutor

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    So you would put every single male you saw on the same level when it comes to looks? Not talking about personality, that is a separate subject.
     
  16. Dr.NoFap

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    There's nothing wrong about taking more care of yourself. This is why ugly young people usually are self-conscious of their looks and as a reaction, they will start taking care of themselves more. This is why ugly people in High school become better looking after they turn 21 or something.

    Quit the soda, quit the junk food, quit porn, quit the cigarettes, quit drunks. Exercise, drink only water, eat healthy. Shower one or twice a day with quality products... brush and floss everyday. When you get better, so does your self-esteem.
     
  17. JustADude

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    @Zerg Prosecutor, statistically, being ugly from societies perspective, even burn victim ugly, only means that the percentage of the population that is attracted to you is very low. Even if the percentage is low, it is non-zero. I don't think anyone was trying to make the point that good looks don't matter, but rather, that you will be a happier person if you accept and embrace the things about yourself that make you unique instead of letting those things bring you down. And... many many people think they are uglier than the real world perceives them to be, those people would be better served working on their confidence versus dwelling on their self perceived flaws. Working out, taking chances, finding success, learning, are all excellent ways to build confidence.
     
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  18. Zerg Prosecutor

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    There are milions of teenagers that feel ugly and are doing everything you just said on that list and they still feel just as ugly.
     
  19. JustADude

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    i used to be one of those kids. now, as an adult, i look back on pictures of myself and realize i was a fool. i was actually a pretty good looking kid, but for some reason i didn't figure that out until late in my college life. and, most of the kids i grew up with had the same incorrect self image of themselves.
     
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  20. Zerg Prosecutor

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    Good looking people are constantly let known by those around that they are good looking...and I don't mean their families...why do you think most attractive girls have that queen bitch attitude? You know what I am talking about and you know that hot girls get away with one thousand times more shit than unattractive girls.
    Also, I have never met an attractive guy that girls do not always act flirty with him complementing him on his looks, directly or indirectly.
     
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