How am I supposed to do the impossible? Bollocks to it

What you want is someone who is mutually interested. Someone who is excited to give you what you want and is excited to receive what you have to give.

Now what's the best way to attain a relationship like that?

Is it to pretend to be someone else? Nope... because you'll attract someone that is only interested in the version of you that is walking on egg shells trying to convince them to be interested in you for the rest of your time together.

Is it to express your deep need for someone to complete you? Nope... because your desperation only shows all the things that you want to take from others and none of the value that you can bring to their lives. It shows that you don't enjoy your own life or your own company. So why would anybody else want to be a part of that? Really think about why other people would want to be part of your life. Especially think about why you would want to be a part of your life and if you don't then it's time to make some changes (for yourself first... and thus being more attractive for others to be want to be a part of your life).

Both of the strategies above doesn't allow you to express yourself honestly. You have to be able to express others what you have to offer, find out what they have to offer, and if you two are mutually interested. You can't do that if you're too busy pretending to be someone else and thus attracting the wrong people. You can't do that if you're desperately trying to get someone to complete you because you can't stand your life otherwise.

You have to meet more people on a regular basis. Try new things. Invest in activities that interests you. Contribute to communities. Meet all kinds of people. Practice socializing / honest expression / taking risks. Build a life and develop yourself into someone that you're proud to be with. If you find people you're interested in, get to know them better and go for what you want. Get rejected as fast as possible by showing them who you really are and what you really want so that you can move on to others that actually want to be with you.

If you want a worthwhile and loving relationship, you have to work for it. Even once you have it, you have to work on it with that person for the rest of the relationship. There's no guarantees and it can be difficult, but that's what makes it worthwhile. This challenges you to grow as a person. It can be messy, unideal, uncomfortable, and uncertain. That's why people prefer porn / prostitutes / pretending to be someone else / escapism / non committed relationships / etc.

If you're not meeting a lot of different people on a consistent basis, you're more likely to overly invest and get destroyed if it doesn't work out with someone you're interested in.

If you don't have passions / interests / hobbies, then you're more likely to go into a downwards spiral if things go wrong in a relationship.

You have to diversify your life. So that when one slice of your pie goes wrong, you have the other slices of the pie supporting you.

Come from a place of being able to go after what you want because other areas of your life grows your self worth and sense of fulfillment. Rather than "this has to work or I'm fucked."

Consistently meeting new people allows you to diversify your emotional investment rather than putting all your eggs into one basket.

Also diversifying your life outside of romantic interests, dating, and even relationships allows you to become more fulfilled and less likely to fall into being outcome attached as well.