Hope

Hey James.
I have never attended any actual sex addict meetings and if you intend to, Go man and never look back. Don't turn into a pillar of salt (bible reference) but transform into the potential you always knew you where.

If you would also like to stay on this site, the more the merrier. I have been on and off on this site for a long time but wasn't until recently i actually started to feel part of a community here and know that recovery is possible.

Everyone on this website are all gathered for the common good of recovery from sex, porn or masturbation addiction.
Let me be the first to welcome you into this wonderful family and hope you will enjoy stay.

 

I'm not an expert but i try to explain. 'emphasis on try', i'm sure you are having very hard time ,now please pay attention "ARE YOU REALLY WHERE YOU WANT TO BE IN YOUR WHOLE LIFE ? IS THIS YOUR CHILDHOOD DREAM ? "
i would expect a no , just think is really a partner required or a super car or a private jet or a six figure in bank account or just a good life ? if you are really serious about it then think twice you are the reason all of your ancestors lived .well i don't argue about a partner in life but try to find someone of your interest if no remember eagles fly alone . life is hard accept it either you get up or give up and you haven't given up cause you stand up again, winners not always win but they never quit losers quit ,these walls are here to weed out the weak but you're not i know you got inside in you, you just lack motivation. i know cause we're on same track.

(all those great lines are not mine)

 

My advice...when you focus on the problem rather than the solution it tends to get bigger. Distract yourself from it. The only way I believe you can kick a bad habit is by replacing it with a good one. And when you choose that good habit it must be the complete opposite of whatever the bad habit is. In this case your habit is sexual desire, being too body conscious, having women being a source of arousal. What is the opposite to all that? Spirituality. ie: being in touch with your true self and what you stand for, being calm, at peace and when you look at women you see their essence of beauty in their nature and minds when they speak and not as dumb sexual objects. Spirituality is the key dude.

I just dont see the logic in getting together in a 'support group' and finding a solution to your problem by discussing it with people with the same problem!
Learn to meditate. Qigong is a good way of directing energy throughout your body (especially if all your energy is stuck in one spot..if you get my drift).