HOLY SHIT IS THIS A RELAPSE??

I know what it feels like, and yes you are right, Its the pants that rub the penis and you have an erection.
I felt the same way, I was sleeping on my chest and then my penis rubbed against bed and I had an erection and about to orgasm, I immediately got off my bed and washed my face and made it a point not to sleep on my chest.
Even if you would have had an orgasm, i still wouldnt have considered as relapse because you did not do it deliberately.
But still well done on stopping yourself. Keep going strong 69 days rocks

 

You just answered your own question.

 

1. Deep breathe into your belly
2. If it persists, cold shower.

Your sexual energy is there, so that's a good sign. Now, if you don't cultivate, it'll have nowhere else to go but out your dick mostly likely in a wet dream. You can get into the advance Chinese techniques of flowing the energy throughout your body and all that fun stuff, but in a nutshell, you just have to breath into it deeply, and RELAAAAAX. Let the boner be there, just relax. The more your muscles tense up, the quicker you'll orgasm. And the heartier your heart beats, the faster you'll orgasm. This applies to sex, and it definitely applies to boners in general.
If you focus on your deep breaths. Your sexual energy is stored near your pelvis (below your belly button area), breathe into it to cool it down. Think of it that way.

 

I'd sleep naked to avoid friction at night in case you get that raging boner again. Sleep on your back maybe.

Also, it is not a big deal to have a wet dream. Your body is way more intelligent that "you" are. If it wants to let it out, it'll let it out. Being THAT scared of a boner and a wet dream is unhealthy for your sexuality.
I am not saying promote wet dreams, but don't be afraid.

This is a healing process. Your body is going to go through some weird phases to help you reset. You'll have throbbing boners one day, and you'll forget that you have a dick some days.

If you are making a deliberate choice to stay away from porn, masturbation, whatever your goal is-- that's where the healing happens. What you do when you are conscious is where you make progress.

Own your boner, don't be scared of it.

If it shows up again and you cum, it was not by choice-- don't sweat it.

 

This is an interesting thread/incident for many reasons. The only aspect of it all I cannot understand is your opening point @IggyIshness. You state you were "stressed out and guilty about the noise in my house". Can you clarify what the noise was and why did you feel "very, very stressed" and "guilty" about it?

As you remind us in your signature^ you are in your mid-teens, ergo, you are in puberty. There is some weird shit that goes down in those years. Yet weird shit, like this incident, is pretty common when you are going through puberty! Your body is sending a blizzard of hormones in your bloodstream (testosterone among others). This often makes teens as horny as fuck, but their dick can get a rigid erection even when you are not thinking about sex - truly. So, your claims of not touching, not fantasising, not stimulating your mind or dick ring true - don't worry about it buddy. I think taking off your trousers and pushing your underwear down was a reasonable countermeasure and might have saved you from jizzing.

There is only one suggestion I could make that could have helped you resolve this throbbing penis any earlier. Remember, the mechanics of an erection: blood enters the penis and is prevented from flowing out. The other thing you could do in similar circumstances is create a scenario where blood is needed elsewhere in the body. The easiest way to do this is to flex your muscles (but not your muscles adjacent to your genitals e.g. ass cheeks ). So, tighten up your hand muscles into tight fists as hard as you can, hold for 4-5 seconds and then release. Flex your biceps to the max, hold for 4-5 seconds and then release. Tense your calf muscles so they are really tight, hold for 4-5 seconds and then release. After a minute or two, your boner will soften up and you will be able to pull your underpants up again and put on your pants. Good luck dude.

 

I agree that going to bed naked helps to avoid underwear and pyjamas pulling on your dick and balls. I sleep on my side, which works for me. It means my dick is free to do the dance without constraint when I am asleep. Hahaha!

It is also true that we should not be scared of getting a boner or having a wet dream or even if you cum under these circumstances. But this dude does have anxiety issues, so I empathise with that. But what you say is quite true.

 

A relapse is Intentionally watching porn

Did you intentionally watch porn? No. So you didn't relapse.
You didn't even masturbate

 

@IggyIshness Well first of all, lets get this out of our way once and for all, anything that does not happen intentionally is not a relapse. This would be your body just doing stuff on it's own. You could have just let it do it's thing and have a pleasant release without needing to reset. Of course you would possibly still lose some benefits of semen retention as well as possibly get chaser effect, so that's maybe a danger that you avoided. But, again, anything that is not you intentionally causing it is not a relapse.

Now why this happened? Well, I think it was just stress trying to release itself. Because you mentioned that you were stressed for whatever reason. It's not first time I hear this that people would have spontaneous orgasms from stress. Same goes for intense anger or pain. Or being tickled. Or anything non-sexual of similar nature. While those things are not sexual by themselves they do create very much the same effects in the body - fast heart beat, high blood pressure, fast breathing, tense muscles, etc. Just as arousal does. So it's normal that stress might have caused this. It did simply build up energy and your body was trying to release that build up energy.

Also a tip: when you are on an edge you can slap your penis very hard. Just do it with full force. It should be very painful, but it's not gonna permanently hurt you in any way. That engages some kind of body's emergency system and you would lose the edge super fast. Just gotta do it with full force or else you would probably will get opposite effect. It needs to really hurt. Just slap your wrist with open arm, with full force if you want an idea of how much it will hurt, feels about the same.

 

I would not endorse this suggestion i.e. to "slap your penis very hard! ...It needs to really hurt." Leave your boner alone!

 

Yes I agree wit @IGY don't hurt yourself. This is about healing not causing pain.

 

That is exactly the right mindset to have!!!

Well done!!!

This is exactly how any one would overcome PMO

 

lol wow, so your telling me it might get to this point,wow

 

There are people here who whine because they had a little urge. If they only knew what it would be like to try this with raging teenaged hormone rushes and random boners. After menopause, women experience heat-flashes, and take medications to control them. I have heard of nothing being done to relieve adolescent hormone rushes. Giving in to them is too easy, but conquering them and staying in control of your body demonstrates that you are a man.
You can be thankful that you have a healthy fully functioning young body, but you will also have to stay strong and keep it under control. Today, it looks like you are doing a good job of that. Keep up the good work.

 

This happens to me also, don't mind. it's not relapse, continue with you fight man!

 

You need to exercise more, hit the gym and you'll use up your energy that way. You don't even need to go to the gym if you do push ups at home. Even if you don't like push ups, you can always run or jog, as that also decreases energy.

 

Hi anyone please reply ..Why he mentioned that his life will be over if he cum ? He got any prbm doing it ? Why he is trying to control it ? I'm new to this site ..