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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Fappers Delight, Mar 24, 2018.

  1. Fappers Delight

    Fappers Delight Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone,
    I am a 42 year old male and have been addicted to porn and masturbation since the age of around 15/16. Started off with looking at lingerie catalogues but slowly progressed over the years to more hard-core material. Have never been able to get past 2 weeks but it is ruining my life. The depression and shame after each relapse is unbearable! I have realised I can't stop on my own and feel from reading other people's experiences the benefits of giving up that I want a new way of life. I also feel it contributes or adds to my social anxiety and depression. All help will be welcomed
     
  2. Hey @Fappers Delight ,

    I'm nobody special on here. Just a regular user saying, "welcome".

    There is so much support on this forum, the profiles and the various groups. It works if you work it. I don't offer advise. I offer only my ESH (experience, strength and hope).

    My ESH is that NoFap is about action and that meant work for me. It is not about "not doing something", for me, it is about working my program.

    Work it? Oh yeah. There's work to be done, that's what's worked for me. Two things I've found necessary.

    1. I had to Learn the NoFap Program.

    2. Getting involved with the community on here was vital to help my recovery.

    Learn the NoFap Program
    The resources listed on the "New Users: List of Rebooting Resources" helped me find my way around the reasons behind the program and the terms used.

    They are:

    You can find this same list on the top of the forum you posted this message on at - the "New to NoFap" forum.

    Get Involved with the Community
    The community has been my lifeline. I've found journals I love, people who are very supportive and a place where I could get to work helping in a small way others.

    Remember, I'm just a normal user with no magic powers. But, I can:

    • Read Journals, and comment when I have ESH

    • Find people I admire and stay in touch via their profiles

    • Pick a forum and make sure every post gets and answer. I can't answer them all, but that's good - different opinions make for a better group.

    • Post in my journal (I could be better at it - but I do milestone posts at least) To make a journal go to the section listed by age and start one. Keep all your journal posts in one thread. But, for random thoughts, you can create a new thread.
    Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums,

    --> L

    PS – I Think of pmo like a wolf. If I Stay near the center of the group with the winners the wolf has a more difficult time finding me. But, stray near the edges of the community by not working my program and the wolf can pick me off.
     
  3. Fappers Delight

    Fappers Delight Fapstronaut

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    Thanks so much for taking the time to write that post. Found it really helpful and something I can keep going back to. I know I'm in the right place
     

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